2007-11-27 05:30:22 · 35 answers · asked by ∂ιαиα †Matisyahu† 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
be glad he told you before you got married...and leave him....he will never be yours now cause his baby momma will always stay in the picture....And would he have told you he was sleeping around if she did not get pregnant.......I doubt it.
2007-11-27 05:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by Law 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in this exact situation with my boyfriend. He was dating a girl before we got together and a few months after they split, his ex found out she was pregnant. The exception was that they split up because she was playing two guys and didn't know which was the father. He wanted absolutely nothing to do with her and she got stuck with the other guy. Luckily her twin girls turned out to be the other guys.
Anyway, it depends on if she became pregnant before you two got together and even then you can't be 100% sure that it is his. Why did they split up?
Second, I would sit down and talk to him about this. If this is something that is a part of his past then I would tell him that you need to wait till this baby is born, find out for sure if it is his and then get things settled with his ex before you think about getting married again.
Do you two live together? Hopefully not so you can take some time away to really think about how you would feel about having this woman and her child in your life.
If this just happening recently then I wouldn't stay with him. There is no guarantee that he wouldn't go back to her again. He could even change his mind after you got married and decide that he wanted to try to make a family with her.
2007-11-27 06:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your fiance has some issues to work out on his own. Until he's straightened out the situation between him and his ex you should probably stay out of it for the sake of your own sanity. I'm sure that the ex won't be very happy that her child's father is running away with someone else.
Besides, it seems like your fiance wants to take the easy way out by marrying you so that his obligations over the baby are "gone."
2007-11-27 05:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by Deveran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my thats such a hard situation to be in. first of all when did his ex get pregnant was he with you of still with her because if he cheated on you then you really cant marry a man like that. if he is a honest man that really truly loves you and you can see yourself having a happy marraige with little issues then stay with him. keep in mind you will become a parent to now though, and his baby and ex will never go away. i suggest you find out for sure if he is the father find out what his feeling are and his true feelings with his ex and then go from there. out yourself first because no one else will and you dont wnat to get hurt in the long run even more. dont rush your marriage either take things slowly because a baby can change everything. if my aqdvice sounds to negative im sorry however, this baby may bring much joy to your relationship .
2007-11-27 05:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by dollamite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if he cheated on you. If his ex was already pregnant before you guys started dating, then tell him you will help him raise his baby. The baby had no fault. If you guys were already dating, or even engaged and his ex became pregnant then dump him. It's not about the baby, it's about cheating on someone he promised to marry.
2007-11-27 05:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now! That means he was cheating on you while you were dating him. What makes you think he won't cheat on you while married?
What's more, that means you and your husband will start out your marriage with a huge financial responsibility that you never bargained for when you got engaged. It would have been one thing if his kid was a factor when you first started dating. But now?
Give him back the ring and run. Don't return his phone calls. And don't ever look back. Just thank your lucky stars you found out this about him now, rather than ten years from now.
2007-11-27 05:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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1. There is no Santa
2. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
3. Marriage sucks
4. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
5. Life is not fair
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2007-11-27 06:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just when did he become your fiance in relation to when she got pregnant? He needs to be a man first and deal with the birth of this child. If you still want to see him, that's up to you. I'd want to wait and see what kind of a man he is when it comes to his responsibilities to the child before I made any commitment to marry him.
2007-11-27 05:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is did she get pregnant after you got together.
If she did before that, then nothing you can do about that and he will have to support the baby.
If she got pregnant after you guys got together, then I would run like hell as he has cheated on you and is liable to do it again.
Either way, if I were him, I would ask for a paternity test to make sure that the baby is his and she is not pulling his leg.
Good Luck.
2007-11-27 05:36:24 · answer #9 · answered by Dimitar A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitly would not marry him, look as this show of commitment, he ex is pregnant with his own baby but he is going to marry a different woman anyway. No way Jose.
2007-11-27 05:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by ehrlich 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess that depends on if she got pregnant while you were in a relationship with him or not. If she did then I would say, don't bother with getting married, there's no reason to enter into a commitment with someone who has obviously not been committed to you.
2007-11-27 05:34:52 · answer #11 · answered by mrskerlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋