Is getting married really that important ????????

Question

Cant 2 people be happy and in love without social apporoval of marriage??????????

Answer 1

Sure, but you're missing out on the deeply rewarding, enriching, intentionally loving-on-purpose, mutually exclusive, let's-build-a-lasting-life, reasonably secure, committed, we're-sure-we-want-to-grow-old-together kind of relationship that can only take root and develop when the back door is closed.

URBAN MYTH: Living together is the same as being married.

These days, no one wants to put in the effort to make a marriage work, so living together has become the alternative. It's easier, fewer expectations and provides an easy out the minute they run into a snag.

Sure, marriage is work, but with the right person, it so very much worth it. Too many people today are full of pride and selfishness. They each want things their way, and pleasing themselves takes precedence over making someone else happy. These people have not been able to pull off a healthy, committed and successful relationship, so they assume no one else has either. Unfortunately, it's human nature that the naysayers get more airtime and attention, so public perception is skewed and marriage tends to get a bad rap.

Go ahead and register your thumbs down. What's right is not always what's popular.

Answer 2

WOW!! This is a great question for everyone to know the truth!

NO marriage, nor living together or sharing anything as well, especially money!!

Marriage dose NOT improve anything mentally ever!! It dose not change, hurt nor help the relationship!! But in most cultures, you must!! So few can get past this today!! So just grow up a do it ASAP!!

FYI

Living together before marriage increase the chances for divorce and breaking up sooner!! Go figure!!

So get married if you’re going to stay or live together or share any bills, expenses or income! What I mean is get engaged or something!! Also you must set a date ASAP, even if it is in 24 months!! Marriage and that date are more than easy to get in and out of at anytime!!! So do it!! But you both must be protected from each other, with some kind of document!! Families and kids could get in the way some day!! So Marriage makes all the above better!

Remember most relationships do not last over time, moreover have lots of up and downs!! So things can get real bad at some point!! A Marriage can save both of you from break ups; best of all improve things when it WILL happen.

But never ever live together. MOREOVER, never combined checking or credit cards accounts....ever at anytime! It's also best to keep dating, meeting and talking to others forever!! Never ever be tided down to one person, unless you are married with KIDS!! GET IT!!! Many married lawyers today, do not combined any checking, credit card accounts, for many good reasons. Most married people cheat, break up and have money problems.

This is the standard and proven mental and legal health advice today, don't fight it, get married ASAP!!!

Don't let the fear of failure stop you any more.

Answer 3

This is the question to ask the two people. If "social approval" is very important to one or both of them, their well-being will suffer if they feel they don't "fit in" - which, in turn, will probably affect the relationship. Some people place more importance on playing by the rules; others don't mind being unconventional. Like it or not, the general social expectation is for a long-term couple to eventually get married; it doesn't have to make sense, this is just what most people do, and this is what most people expect. If not conforming to the expectations doesn't bother either person, their relationship should be just fine with or without the marriage certificate.

Answer 4

Marrage is absolutely unessicary if your both on the same page.

And its less exspensive then marrage and divorce.. There are ways around the legal state of marage as well. Power of atturney and the like. Marrage ceremonies can be held and marrage licenses have not always exsisted so to have government tell you your married seems a little redundant.


The ceremony can be fun so can the party. However i would advise that a public celebration of your affections with friends and family doesent need to include a license or the like what so ever.


Marrage is a tradition that has made itself a business.. and industry if you will.. and always has been.. from the most archaic of customs to "establish" a pair bond in society its nothing more then partner ownership.

Ask anyone whos had 7 marrages also.. eventually a person wises up to the idea.

Answer 5

It depends. If you are not planning on having children, why get married. But if anything should happen to either one of you, neither of you gets to speak for the other unless you have filed paperwork stating that you are your "friends" keeper. Only a blood family member will get to have any say if anything terrible should happen. The marriage license gives you the right to speak for the other. That's why so many are entering into "Domestic Partner" status, so they can speak for the other. You may not want all kinds of tubes and wires, and your partner knows this, but has no say. So your family can do as they wish, regardless of what you would have wanted. There is alot to be said about marriage in the legal aspect, other then that.... why marry? Living together is now totally acceptable to most people.

Answer 6

It can work if both parties feel that way but in reality it is the man that feels this way but the woman wants marriage and the commitment.

It is not really the social approval it is a statement to the person you are with saying to them that you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with them.

This is the way women look at marriage they do not consider it a simple piece of paper like most men do.

If you love the person your with you will want to marry them it just comes to feel like the normal thing to do. Plus it will make them very happy and sex will no longer be a sin in the eyes of our heavenly father.

Answer 7

It's possible.Marriage is not essential provided both are of same mind and hardly care for who thinks what.The basic thing is 'do they love each other honestly and do they trust each other?'
I think you have asked a bold question to be responded boldly by the answerer.
I am sure marriage is simply a stamp on a piece of paper having no real value.had it not being so, how is it that after fulfilling all conditions of marriage , the same marriage very often doesn't last?
It's the question of mutual trust and love that decides ultimately whether a relationship of living together will survive or not.

Answer 8

Two people can be happy and in love without marriage, but there is a certain amount of security offered in marriage. Also, if one of the couple has a very traditional family, do you really think that they would be allowed to live with each other? Probably not.

Answer 9

Why would you mind if anyone approves or not? It is totally your life and the life choices you make should have no bearing on anyone else. As long as your partner agrees, then not marrying is just fine. Ps. (But if you have children with your significant other however, and someone teases your child, well, that can be kinda harsh for the child in which case, marrying... which is a way of placing your commitment on a piece of paper, might be a prudent, unselfish act you could do).

Answer 10

They can if that's what they both agree on. Sometimes the social pressure's too much,hence the marriage. Marriage is not bad either, a mini get together of people who have been instrumental in your life. Share the joy of togetherness, mate :)