and you weren't getting along with your spouse, you weren't having sex and their seem to be no attraction/connection, would you be tempted to have an affair with someone? Think about it and be honest. Don't just respond to look good.
2007-11-27 05:00:09 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course I would be tempted. I'm human, but at the same time, I took my vows very seriously. I would be doing everything in my power to solve my marital problems. If after I tried everything, and we were both still miserable, I would probably get a divorce. Divorce is my absolute last resort though. I don't say that to look good to anybody. I have children, and I believe it is my obligation to provide a loving caring home with both of their parents. My parents divorced when I was a child, and I swore I wouldn't do to my kids what my parents did to me.
I am very thankful that this isn't an issue for me......
2007-11-27 05:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Been there Done that Left Him a year ago and still am not interested in finding another mate. No Way No Way No Way
Maybe one day eventually but I don't foresee any such thing happening any time soon.
I reckon I kinda got use to taking care of myself.
I have not been tempted in that way no matter the circumstances.
I truly feel anyone cheating is a coward.
You didn't have the guts to leave your spouse before finding a new mate.
You didn't have the will power to control yourself until after the divorce was final.
However, as I always say:
You are the leader of your existence.
2007-11-27 19:19:01 · answer #2 · answered by patience 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there is no hiccup in marriage that would give you the right nor the temptation to cheat on your spouse. Since as you age you have many different problems that arise why cheat for the stupid reason you ain't gettin any at this moment just to destroy what you have.
I think only a person that had never cared for the person they love and have married would deep so low to cheat.
Sex is just a part of marriage it is not the reason you marry someone you marry for the companionship, friendship, communication, support, care, the bond you share, and for the love you have for each other intimacy is all that wrapped into one.
I think you have lost the feelings for the one you marry and she has for you it is time to find a counsellor to work on it or find a lawyer to end it. Really if you have the nerve to cheat then let the person go before you would hurt them and break their heart in two.
2007-11-27 13:14:42 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I would not cheat on my spouse even if we were in the situation you have stated. Actually I was in that situation. I'm now a widow. If I was tempted I would leave my husband and seek a legal separation and eventually divorce. When you take wedding vows, you are promising, while married, to keep your commitment and loyalty to one another. Being a sneak and liar is not a healthy way to conduct your life. So think long and hard before you decide to lie and cheat. The consequences to you and to the family may be too big a price to pay.
2007-11-27 13:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by when1947 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think we've all been tempted by a brighter and shinier thing sitting in the window. If a cute girl was throwing herself at you, you're going to think about it even IF your marriage was running smoothly. I think that the older you get, you sort of realize that temptation is all around you. The more you deny it, the more susceptible I think you are.
So yes, if the marriage is not going to great, it's normal to fantasize about having someone else in your life. You imagine that this affair of yours turns out to be true love and that you leave your current marriage for this wonderful life with the other person.
HOWEVER...you realize sooner or later that problems in marriage are normal and you just use the other idea as fantasy...and keep it that way.
2007-11-27 13:08:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I have been there and I did sleep with someone else. It is somthing you have to live with when you look the one you married in the eye. The problems still need to be discussed, the affair is not a quick fix, in fact it could lead to more problems. Think about how you would feel if they did the same to you. Expore options that could heat up the romance between you and your spouse. That said, I dont regret my affair and possibly would do it again, right now Im in a great place with my husband.
2007-11-27 13:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by ♥windi♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly...no! I've been there with my husband 2x already. 4 years ago when our 2nd was born and just got through another bump on the road.
Life throws a lot of stuff at you and it's easy to just look the other way and get comfort elsewhere but I don't think it's worth it. In the end you'll be much more happier if you work on your marriage and get things back the way they used to be. It's hard but it can be done most of the time.
I did it once, and even though it's not as bad this time we've had our problems and not once did I ever think of cheating. All I think about is how did we get to this point and how can we fix it. :)
2007-11-27 13:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by Liz B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I would be tempted to have an affair but I would not engage in the act.....The only way I would seek a girlfriend is if I was issued divorce papers but knowing me if I got a divorce I would not engage in any kind of relationship I would rather be single then start fresh on the dating scene
2007-11-27 14:52:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tempted? Probably. I'm human. But I wouldn't do it. Been there, and done that long time ago, and the costs don't warrant a quick roll in the sack. Plus, no matter WHERE I go, there I always am...so I'd rather be able to live with my conscious than have a quick round of pleasure. It's just not worth it.
2007-11-27 13:11:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
NOPE commitment is commitment is commitment...
If your relationship means that much to you..You will do everything possible to get to the bottom of this..
There could be many medical, psychological, environmental, work or relationship issues that have caused this breakdown in the relationship...Medications can cause loss of sex drive as well as numerous types of depressions...or an illness in their system they don't even know exists yet...Impotence is another one..
Sit down and talk with your spouse,,find out if they know what is causing that part of themselves to shut down from your relationship... and see if there is an explanation for what is going on...
Escaping into another relationship is NEVER a good option..
Facing this one until you get resolution is best..Also find a counselor to talk to about this if it starts driving a wedge between you and your spouse...Ask your spouse to go but don't push..even if they don't want to YOU go...
Good luck....
2007-11-27 13:11:59 · answer #10 · answered by Dog Rescuer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋