I've been talking to a guy for about a month who wants to be friends w/benefits & hopefully become more. We've been texting everyday. He wants us to be careful so that neither one of us end up hurt.(I just got divorced)He's pretty sick right now so the last few days we haven't been texting as often or calling each other. I miss him though! He told me last week that he misses me. I don't want to be too clingy but I want to text him or call him all the time! lol...I don't though. How often is too often to text or call throughout the day? I want him to have a chance to miss me...but not forget me. We live 45 minutes away from each other so we don't get to see each other real often. Is it too soon to be telling him I miss him & want to see him again...since I already said it the other day? lol...I know it may sound cheesy but I'm used to being married not single! I want him to know how I feel but not be scared. What do you think is off limits to say at this point?
2007-11-27 04:47:40 · 10 answers · asked by love my life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it matters at all.....we've hooked up twice.
2007-11-27 04:48:03 · update #1
Do not use the I love you as of yet!. Really maybe texting once and having a long conversation over the phone every other day would be fine and it would show that you can live independently but still want him around and enjoy hearing his voice. I think your just divorced take everything very slow your in a confusing lonely rebound state right now and your thinking with your heart and your feelings instead of your brain. Since you just got divorced it is hard to get over not being married but I think you must realize that your not all there right now your mind is thinking I don't want to be alone
but your like I'm not sure how I should proceed with this guy.
That is why it is best to stay single and get your life on track after a divorce before looking for a new love.
Don't be in a rush to find a new love thats when you fall for someone that is totally wrong for you.
May God Bless You and Best Wishes, sorry to here about the divorce.
2007-11-27 05:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be careful to not do anything that would upset the status quo. If you two are happy with everything the way it is now then just go with the flow. You can tell him you miss him, and miss his company. That is fine. Just when you say it you may want to qualify it by saying that you miss talking to him. Or you just miss BSing with him. Something to keep it on an even keel. Be careful though because it sounds like you two may be pushing for a little more than benefits. Both of you.
2007-11-27 05:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not FWB material. You are already in a position to be hurt. You are too emotionally involved for this to be just a simple sexual relationship with no strings attached.......It's only been a month and you already want more. How is this going to work in another month when he finds the woman he really wants a relationship with and stops calling you all together. You will be hurt, furious, and crushed emotionally.
You shouldn't even have to ask what communication is too much. If this was a real FWB situation, you would already know. The fact that you have to hold yourself back already says it's too much.....
2007-11-27 04:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should keep your options open and not get back into a committed deal so fast
You have some healing to do and you need to develop yourself more
after I was divorced I did not know what I liked because I always compromised my likes
spend time figuring out what you really want and don't let the Idea of self improvement be cut short because if you do it will only mess up future relationships
2007-11-27 04:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by mmmkay_us 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cares about you you could drop off the face of the earth and he wouldn't forget you! But you need to give him space to at least miss you If you don't give him even the chance to pursue you how will you ever know how he feels. Don't make yourself to convient!
2007-11-27 04:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not continue to sleep with him, in a relationship or not FWB does not usually lead into a steady relationship. As I said before, he will use you as long as you allow him to, and nine times out of ten the person who will be hurt will be you.
2007-11-27 04:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by lwomar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thin txt about 3 times and day and call about 2 times a day I think that that is enough..
2007-11-27 06:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're already past the "friends with benefits" stage because your feelings are involved. If he doesn't have the same feelings for you, this can only end badly. It won't matter what is or isn't appropriate to say.
2007-11-27 04:57:05 · answer #8 · answered by giwifegimom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say 5 times.Makes you feel like kid again and it sweet
It ok to say what is on your mind and keep comunication open.Guys like to be told sweet things. and to know they are liked
2007-11-27 05:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by snowball 74 2474 ssbbcc91397cats 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times you going to ask this question??
2007-11-27 04:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋