Basically recently my mom & my boyfriend got into a pretty heated fight and now he is not allowed in her house until he apoligises, etc. Of course she is a bit upset with me that I would continue to be with him when he was so disrespectful.
Well our anniversary was just a few days after the fight and we went on a little mini vacation. He ended up asking me to marry him yesterday & i said yes.
So today I get home and I had to go straight to school so I didn't want to just say hey mom I'm engaged and run off to school. And now I'm home for a hour before class again and she is sleeping.
How should I tell her???
2007-11-27 04:33:13 · 17 answers · asked by prettyblueeyes101010 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For all of you questioning my age... I'm a junior in College.
And I do not agree with the whole, have to ask my parents first thing. I am over 18 and a consenting adult. Besides if my mom said no I would still say yes. But just to update y'all I did tell her. She just was like well if you are happy, I am happy for you.
2007-11-27 10:25:21 · update #1
well, you have to be honest with her....sit her down and explain that you really love this man and he is a part of your future...that he has asked you to marry him and you said yes. that you would like her blessing but understand that right now that isn't possible b/c of the fight that happened between them...that you hope in time that they can heal what has happened between them for the sake of everyone.
2007-11-27 04:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have no concept of what engagement means have you.
It is an ancient tradition, and what it involves is the man having proposed to the girl and she accepted, he then has to go to the parents and ask if he can have the girls hand in marriage
If the parents agree then the couple can get engaged and the whole family and parents announce the engagement and future marriage to the world.
It is therfore not possible to be engaged in the true sense of the tradition without first getting the parents consent.
Sorry if you dont like this, or think it is old-fashioned, but that is how the tradition works
Basically, you need to ASK your Mum for her blessing, not tell her
2007-11-27 12:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by peter w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first look at what it is that your Mother and Boy friend are fighting about, and how his behavior will effect you in the future. Look at how and why the fight happened. Did your boyfriend fight fair, cause this is how he will fight with you in the future. Then if you still want to marry this guy. I think the boy friend need to go and ask for you hand. I know it's old school, but it's the best way for you mother to see the future. It will also give them a chance to heal the wound between them.
2007-11-27 12:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by sendittojeff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still at school I assume you are under the age of 18. You cannot marry without the consent of your parents until that age in most countries. You are therefore out of line with regard to agreeing to be engaged. This is not going to improve relations with your mother. You are ill advised to persist in your actions. Think carefully about what you are doing. If all your boyfriend wants is for you to agree to sex then you should forget this whole episode. You do not need to be tied down at such a young age.
2007-11-27 12:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by CountTheDays 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you say school I hope you mean University or College if you mean High School grab a brain. Your too young and foolish to even know what marriage or real commitment is I have a feeling your mom and BF had a fight because he is way to old for you. I think you need to look at yourself in the marriage and picture your future. If you want a real answer to this give us your AGE!
2007-11-27 12:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to have him come to your home and apologize to your mom that is not right the same thing happened to my mom and husband and she did not talk to me for 3 months but anyway have him apologize and then sit her down and tell her mom I love you very much and what ever your bf name is and I have decided we want to get married and then have say mama will you let me marry your daugther I would hate to not have your blessing please accept me as your new son in law I will love a charish your daughter until the day that I die. And so one and then wooo hoo wedding plans.
2007-11-27 12:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her before she hears it from someone else. It's your engagement not hers so she should get over the fight. She's not going to be waking up next to him everyday. Good luck
2007-11-27 12:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
both you and your bf (hubby) should go together and say to your mom. its important that he should be with you. dont care about what happens next. atleast your mom will know that the guy you have married has enough dare to say that you both are married.
2007-11-27 12:41:59 · answer #8 · answered by jack r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bf should talk to her and try to make things easier to handle. Then both of you can tell her that you want to get married.
2007-11-27 12:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your BF really loves you then he would go and appologize to your mother. It would make life so much better for everybody
2007-11-27 12:48:31 · answer #10 · answered by HM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋