I just want help!!!?

Question

Ok. I had a m/c at 13 weeks in July of this year with an emergancy D&C. I really want another baby and have tried for the last 3 months to get pregnant. It doesn't help that my periods are always late now since the prengancy,and every month I think theres a possibility that I am prego because it gets later everytime. (this past time was 2 weeks late). I just need some encouaging words because I feel like I'm loosing my mind here already.

Answer 1

Oh. Poor little you. You must be feeling absolutely rotten. You've had a terrible time. My advice? You MUST give yourself time to mourn your loss before you start trying again. It was only July and you are nowhere near over it yet. That's not very long ago and your hormones and emotions won't be at all settled yet awhile and your body won't be anywhere near ready yet for a new baby. So don't try so hard. The more you try and nothing happens, the more frustrated you'll get, which will tense you up and make pregancy less likely. You're in a vicious circle at the moment and you must stop and get out of it. You really DO need time to recover. Don't count your periods or the days between because they are going to be a bit up and down for a while, quite naturally, so watching and counting anxiously is just a waste of time. Your body's had a hell of a shock and you need some rest and recuperation and time to let everything settle down. Relax. Take everything slowly. Enjoy your partner, try and enjoy Christmas. If you can manage it, try and have a holiday together and completely RELAX in eachother's company. Don't aim to start trying for a baby again until around Easter. There is absolutely no rush. You cannot replace the little one you lost and that little baby needs to be missed and mourned properly. Then you can start again from scratch and your new baby will be a whole new person to be loved and enjoyed. TAKE YOUR TIME and good luck. It WILL happen. Stop worrying unnecessarily.

Answer 2

You're not alone at all, believe me after more then half a year of trying, no success, but I tried these great tips and am now 8 months preggo with a healthy lil boy...if your periods are late and irregular then just try having sex at least 3 times a week (ex. mon, wed, fri) so then you are sure to have semen inside of you on one of your fertile days, I had trouble finding my ovulation days etc.. because I had irregular periods but by having sex at least 3 times a week I would be sure to catch an ovulation day. Dont over think it and get down or upset, sometimes it takes a while, stressing and worrying solves nothing trust me just relax and enjoy and I'm sure it'll happen quicker then you think hun! Also after sex try propping a pillow under your hips (a gravity thing) and try havign sex with your man on top for best penitration, these are all things that really worked for me and I hope they work for you too, best wishes hun and good luck =]

Answer 3

Yuor peroids just changed from the pregnancy. Every pregnancy I had changed them some how. I time after one of my boys my period were always a week late every month. And then one month got pregnant and was so surprised. Just hang in there and if you think you are then go to the doctor for a blood test!

Answer 4

I've had problems concieving and they only thing that gets me through the ups and downs is my husband tells me "It's not time then. There is a reason for everything. No worries." He's the one that wants the children so bad. Just try and be hopefull and think postive thoughts. Stress messes with your system very badly. Keep your chin up! Alot of times it takes 6 months to a year for a normal healthy couple to concieve

Answer 5

plz dont feel like this, maybe its your body settling down from such a big change and shock,,it will happen when it is meant to happen, why dont you buy a kit that lets you know your most fertile days, that could help as your periods are evrywhere you wont know when you are fertile.. it will happen in its own time, it did once already and it will again.. plz have some hope, my uncle is going through the same thing with his wife, and they have just concieved.. good luck and sorry to hear about the miscarriage... baby dust your way xxx

Answer 6

I'm sorry for your lost & frustration on having another one...I sometimes don't understand life & why things happen how they do-----Neither the father or myself were happy to hear I am pregnant I sincerely can't understand why God choose me & him at this point in our lives to have this baby--but I am a strong believer that everything happens for a reason & in Eccles.3 (of the Bible) the scripture tells how there is a time & place for everything under the sun. Trust that this will happen for you when the time is right

Answer 7

i lost 4 babies all early on around 7 weeks now here i am with a 9 month old daughter and 28 weeks and like 5 days pregnant. you'll get it just give it time.

Answer 8

sometimes it just takes time Hun, the more you stress the more your body is going to say "not the right time for this" i know its easy for people to say don't stress but for you its not that easy. i had 2 miscarriages before i had 2 of my children, one at 6 weeks and another at 12 weeks i had to have a D&C with that one also, it took me 4 months after loosing to fall pregnant again and i had a heathly baby boy. there is hope its just going to take time for your body to reajust thats all.
Good Luck!!!

Answer 9

Look the good things in life are worth waiting for, and when you get pregnant it will be wonderful. go to the store and buy these pills called estroven its for menopause but when you take this is will help regulate your hormones and will help you to get pregnant, when i started these i got pregnant 1 month after!! good luck!

Answer 10

my very first preg 10 yrs ago resulted in a m/c. i micarried in october and did not get preg again until march almost 5 months later (son-9yrs old) so dont give up it make take several months for your body to get ready for another preg.good luck