my 8yr old daughter is being bullied at school and teacher r not interested. what is my next step?

Answer 1

Don't give up, because bullying will not just stop on its own. Go back to the school, again and again if need be. Talk to the school district too - these days schools are usually very quick to try to do something about bullying because it has finally been recognized as a big issue.

Ask for a meeting with the teacher and the parents of the kids doing the bullying. Often parents are not aware that their child is bullying someone, and gettting parents involved can sometimes help - not always, but sometimes.

Questions similar to yours have been asked here on Yahoo Answers many times. If you do a search in the search window here on Y!A you will get more than 15,000 results and you will find a lot of good advice.

Talk to you child about things she can do to avoid being bullied, and what she can do when it happens. There are tons of on line resources, so do a search just for the word "bullying". Here are a few sites that may help you. Print some of the information you find here and take it to school with you to demonstrate the seriousness of the issue.

Answer 2

Visit the school, grab the little scroats by their throats and scare them to the point that they wet themselves.
That's what I did with my little brothers tormentors, although they were slightly older than your daughters.
It worked, but I also ended up at the police station, a situation I was prepared to deal with for the sake of my brother.
Thankfully all charges were dropped and my brother is no longer bullied.
Either this or tell the school that if they are not prepared to protect your child during the time she is in their care that you will be taking out some sort of legal action against the school and the individuals involved in the bullying and their parents. Nothing makes people act quicker than when they feel that it will cost them something.
The latter option is obviously the most sensible one.

Whatever action you take I hope it works out in the end.

Bullies are ******* ********* and should be treated the same way they treat others.

Changing schools is a last resort as bullying goes on everywhere and to if it keeps happening all you will teach your child to do is run away anytime something bad happens in life. This may be fine as a child but not a very good quality for an adult.

Answer 3

The most important thing you must do is put everything down in writing. There is then a record of your complaint and it is harder to forget about.

The first step is a letter to her teacher requesting a meeting to discuss this. Only give her a couple of days though. Second step - a letter to the Head asking for a meeting and requesting a copy of the school's written bullying procedure - they have to give you this by law and every school must have one.

In both these letters try and name the kids doing the bullying.

If you need to write again, make sure you say 'I WISH TO MAKE A FORMAL COMPLAINT'. These words are very important as it means that they have to reply. Copy this letter to the head of the School Governors.

After this, it will be a letter to the Education Office but by then, you will not be leaving the kid at the school. It doesn't often get this far as the Head will not want to be hauled up by the Head of Governors.

This 'paper trail' also helps the school because you can bet that these kids are not just bullying your child. If it is serious enough for suspension etc. this paper trail is used to justify the suspension to the School Governors and LEA.

Answer 4

For one thing, you need to go right to the head of the school. Not just because of the bullying, but also because of the teacher refusing to get involved. A teacher is supposed to help with problems such as bullying, and it needs to be reported that they arent doing their job.

Find out whatever you need to know from your daughter about whats going on. Tell her that by telling you, you can make the bullying go away. Once you have everything u feel you need to know, or all that you can get, go to the head of the school and tell them whats going on and about the teacher also. Be sure to get the name of the bully.

After you talk to the head, wait a week or so and find out from your daughter if the problem has gone away. If not, you might want to try talking to the bully's parents yourself.

Be sure to emphasize always that the best way to stop bullying is to tell an adult that its happening!

I wish you and your daughter the best of luck! Bullies can be horrible!

Answer 5

I been there with my daughter, she was only 5 years when it started and i went to the teacher's, but lucky it was looked into, but it still took about 3 weeks for the 2 older boys to get caught, my steps were going to be go to the teacher, then to the head of school and if nothing was still done i would have gone to the parents of the boys to sort it out with them, you don't have to put up with this, well good luck

Answer 6

you've been given great advice here - wanted to add, with the person who suggested judo, that while you're working to fix the situation at the school level with the head, it's also important to have positive things happening outside of school.

your daughter needs to know, while all of this is going on, that she's got strengths the bullies can't touch.

also, fighting a system is a lot of work. hugely important, but can in itself be a bullying process... do what needs to be done at school but take care of home, too.

good luck!!!

Answer 7

the whole school needs to implement some sensitivity training on how to address bullying, go to your school board if need be,parents and educators should come up with a plan that addresses this problem right away, if left unchecked it could lead to alot of other problems, such as anxiety, depression, isolation,and insecurity, all of the issues stem from bullying

Answer 8

Guess I agree with the majority, go to the head of the school and have a talk with her. If they fail to do anything show up at a school board meeting with a lawyer who will quote a multi- million dollar law suit against the school. It will be stopped.

Answer 9

Raise it with the Head Teacher, if nothing happens contact the Board of Governors. Just don't give up, your daughter deserves to be happy.

Answer 10

well you should go to the principal and tell him to talk to the little boy and his parents. Most of the time, at this age, that's all they need.. If it doesnt work, tell the principal to keep an eye on them.. I went through the same thing when i was her age.. I was in an "all-white" school, and i was the only brown person there. Also, tell your daughter to stand up for herself.. Believe me, it will only get harder for her when she's growing up. The only difference is that they will be stronger.. If she stands up to them, they may stop bothering her..!


GOOD LUCK!!