How do you deal with a husband that is a rude pig?

Question

My husband completely changed after marriage. We have a 9 month old son that he isn't very involved with. He has left for two weekends this month to go on hunting trips. He expects me to sit at home with nothing to do while he is gone. Over the w/end I had a friend over and we had a couple drinks. He texts me with the simple words "im getting sick of u" and when i try to call him back to ask him what he's talking about he wont answer, or picks up and hangs the phone up on me. I am sick of his immature games, when he got home and I brought up the subject of how wrong what he does is he doesn't want to talk about it. I am basically over this. Help anyone? Should I let it go? This has been ongoing for at least a year.

Answer 1

Sunburn is an idiot! Men do not behave this way. Tell him in plain simple words (unlikely he would understand otherwise) to pack his bags and get out or start acting like a real man and start helping raise his son. If he leaves, good riddance, if he stays make sure he starts acting like a man or divorce him and take everything he has.

Answer 2

This guy is a big jerk. This is too big for you to seek advice by well meaning people here in yahoo. You need to seek counseling. If you are not able to do this, or you have the financial means, but he is not willing to do this, then take your baby and go back home to your parents. Tell him that you mean business and don't go running back the first time he sweet talks you. Make him attend marriage counseling or even go so far as writing Dr. Phil....do what you can to save this marriage for the sake of your baby, but, if he doesn't change his ways, then the best thing you could do for all concerned, is leave him. I am so sorry! I know first hand the pain and fear you feel right now. I've been on this road and I had 5 young children that I had to take down that road with me. Only my faith and guidiance from God carried me through. Best wishes and God bless! PS: Don't go back to him until he has attended counseling with you for 2 or 3 months and you see progress. If you go back to him too soon, you will be making it easy for him to go back to his own ways. He needs to know that you are serious and that you won't put up with this!

Answer 3

I'm assuming the text messages you're receiving from your husband are happening on these hunting trips? I'm sick of U What is he angry about? You need to get to the bottom of all this negativity. You need to find a new approach that will enable him to respond to you in a direct manner. Possibly help from a family member or a close friend. I believe that these things will continue to get worse in the long run. The sooner you can get him to open up to you then you may be able to start rebuilding a more healthier relationship.

Answer 4

Speaking from 7 years of experience. Don't just let it go! One day you'll wake up and realize that you have been giving and giving and giving and for what?? You don't want to look back at your life and realize you wasted all that time for nothing. I'm not saying that people don't change, but they sure as heck don' t change until they have to!! Sounds like you need to lay down some boundaries. I'm not saying that men shouldn't go do men things, but it has to be both ways. You should be able to hang out with your girls on occasion too!!

Answer 5

you said you are basically over it, so get over it completely and move on. You have a child to think about and if you are not happy you will transfer that to him. Get your own life and friends and try and be happy. This guy does not sound like he is the right one for you. You are still young enough to meet someone else and have a good life. Just make sure you talk about what you expect from the relationship with the new guy before you move in together or get married. Did your husband go hunting before you married him. If he did, then you knew what to expect going in. You either accept it or make the move out of there.
good luck

Answer 6

It sounds like he is very immature. I feel bad for your son missing out on a good relationship with his father. I would either try counseling if you want to save your marriage or I would separate and divorce him. Sorry girl but there are way better men out there.

Answer 7

Wow... If I was in your shoes I would be throwing ultimatums out there at him. I would not put up with that, but that is just me. I know it is hard to raise a child by yourself, but let me tell you, there are more fish in the sea that are willing to go up to bat to give you the respect you deserve and the father figure that your son needs. Tell him that being a parent is a 50/50 job and that you are tired of picking up his slack and if he doesn't want the job, you will be happy to find someone who is willing.

Answer 8

He sounds like quite the A**hole. The two of you are married adults with a child. He needs to quit acting like a child himself and grow up. And he's sick of you? Maybe you should let him in on a bigger secret, that you HAVE BEEN sick of him for a long time now and that if things don't change your leaving him.

Answer 9

You sound young and dumb. Here are a few facts of life:

1. There is no Santa
2. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
3. Marriage sucks
4. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
5. Life is not fair

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Answer 10

Its a shame, you had a child with him and your marriage is falling apart.Did he want to have children? You need to decide what you are going to do that is best for your son. Is he like this all the time? You dont say how long you have been married. Separate and work on yourself and whats best for you and your son.