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I went with my firend to a store and bought an oral toy. I have used it once and didn't liked it really. I paid double the amount which was offering on internet. My husband saw it in my bank statement online then he asked after 2 weeks what did I bought I told him I bought a toy. He got upset he said" if you hide these things from me. You can hide anything." I am in my early pregnancy. He already has doubts because he asked for paternity test. It was a different story. I came from very traditional background and I will never think of cheating on him. He went to work without saying me bye or kissing me. He is mad on me. I don't know what to do. I am not even using it. I didn't told him because I thought he will be offended and which he was. I don't know what to do. Do u have any idea on what to do now. I apologized him but he is mad.

Answer 1

He was offended you hid it. The first time he asked you what you bought, you should have just told him so I can understand his point to a certain degree. He also has to put this into perspective. You just didn't mention sexual toy. Your reason is you were embarrassed and didn't know how he would react. I understand he is upset that you couldn't share this with him, but at the same time your explanations are valid. For him to ask for a paternity test is a bit extreme, and it would then make me wonder what he has been doing for him to react this badly about something, that really isn't that big a deal-imho. Is he just a controlling person, or is this new behavior. If it's new, I'm sorry to say, I would be doing some digging of my own.......

Answer 2

Aha, ADULT QUESTION?
You really sound naive. BTW you must be only in your teens is it? You have to be very very honest with yourself.
If you lie and say you buy the so called ........... toy.... ....for your husband, he'll know you are telling another lie and then there won't be any cure for you. You have not been very open.
You didn't disclose the fact that you bought the toy till it was discovered.
So there is only one clear cut solution.
Go for the paternity test without grudge for you are the one who caused your husbands distrust. Then if the test is positive, tell your husband the truth why you bought the toy.
Is it because you were influenced by a friend?
Is it because you have the misconception that once you are pregnant you must have sex with your husband and so you must find release in another manner?
Or Is it that you wanted to try it out because you read some where that it should be good for pregnant ladies?
Or some other reason you have on your own.
Be honest and tell your husband the truth and ask for forgiveness.
His madness will cool down if you are 100% sincere in your explanations and apologies.

Answer 3

Sorry, but I don't see what the big deal is. My husband and I go to the darn store and buy toys together, they are fun and add a lot of spice to a marriage. But in your case, I guess it's deeper than that. You should not hide things from your husband, tell him that you bought it for the simple fact of wanting to see what it was like, you did not enjoy it, and regret ever buying it. it's not like you went out and cheated on him. I think he is the one you need to be watchful of. Sometimes when men have a guilty conscience they tend to twist things around. Keep that in mind. If he can't get over this then there is a major problem in your relationship.

Answer 4

Try apoligizing again,, then tell him that you bought the thing to play with,,, with him,,,, but after you bought it you felt afraid,, to ask him,, you didn't want him to think you were some kind of freak,,, but all you wanted to do was spice up your love life,, tell him on that night you were gonna cook him dinner dress up like someone else,,, give your self another name,,, and rock his world,,you wanted to show him your Kinky side,,, and you just chickened out !! period,,, and then offer to show him,,, hopefully he will get aroused,,, and then you go buy a wig,, put on some hills, and cute girly things and show him,,, this should get you off the hook,,, hell I would just spring it on him when he came home from work,, let him walk into candles, good dinner and the other you,, LOL
seeing you like this should make him forget all about being mad,,, lol

Answer 5

Be honest with yourself & answer - why did you buy it? This is what will open up your door to communicate with your husband. He is asking the same question... WHY? We are all wondering the same thing. Not that you are unfaithful to your husband, but WHY you would buy an oral toy? Maybe when explaining this to him, you can include that you should have talked about it with him before you bought it...

Answer 6

Buy him a cute toy for his use, or something you can use together. He'll be mad for a while yet, so let him cool off first. Also, go take a paternity test just to show him that he's your one and only. He will be placated with this knowledge and probably relax on you.

Answer 7

Tell him you didn't want to cause a fight about it, you didn't think it would be that big a deal. You weren't really trying to hide it anyway since you knew it would show up on the bank statement. But, going forward you'll let him know, though you probably have no plans to buy anything else like that again.

Answer 8

I think I would be upset if my husband bought oral toys and didn't tell me, I think that the toys should be something that you two should use together....

Answer 9

Why did you buy a toy and your not even using it? That's a little dumb isn't it? What do you mean your husband is mad on you? Mad on you? I've never heard that before lol!

Answer 10

The best bet is to tell him the reason why you didn't tell him.
He's probaly wondering what other secrets you are keeping, because you didn't tell him about the toy.
Sit and talk to him in an adult fashion before it gets out of hand!