I'v been married to this man for 41/2 years now. We got married then one month later he went to prisonhe just got out in May 07 the hole time we've been married he now lives with another women and i'm fine with it I DO WANT MY DIVORCE from him he had me meet with him yesterday to go talk to a lawer but never did he did talk to his on phone suppose to meet with lawer on Thursday to get it started but i think he is playing games with me. I;m not working i can't afford it he said he would pay for our divorce do you think i can trust him? I want out because he cheats hits and does drugs i want no part of that life anymore i have been clean for months now doing better he also tells me no matter who he is with he still loves me and i can always come get some from him. LIKE THAT ISn't HAPPENING does he think i'm still crazy? I had no contact with him for months up untill the other day i hate being around him at times i fear for my life with him I can't afford a lawer or to pay for this divorc
2007-11-27 02:35:25 · 6 answers · asked by Toni A 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know about the divorce thing but I'm really glad to hear that you have been clean for months! Keep it up...it gets easier and easier and your whole life will change. You absolutely should stay away from him at all costs if he is still using! One of Bill W friends too.
2007-11-27 02:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the courthouse in your area. Ask the court clerk to give you the court forms to file divorce. It is a simple two page form in most places. Fill it out, sign it and pay the filing fee. You won't need a lawyer unless he gets one and fights for assets or something. Otherwise, if you file, and he gets served papers, he only has 28 days to file an answer with the court. If he does not file an answer, the court will grant your divorce, and enter a default judgement in your favor. If however, you do fear him, you may also have to ask the court clerk for a form to file for a Protection Order at the same time you file for divorce. If you do file for that, you will have to appear in front of the judge during a hearing to state reasons why you need protection from your husband. Recent parole from prison might be a good reason to the judge.
"Men" don't play games, they don't have to. You need to get yourself out of the situation as soon as possible. You found the courthouse to get the marriage license, you were able to fill out that application and get married, you can go back to the same courthouse and get a form to fill out to file for divorce. It is not rocket science, and if you're smart enough to operate your computer sufficiently to post this question, you are smart enough to get out of your situation-if you really want to.
2007-11-27 10:46:04 · answer #2 · answered by Daisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you actually ask if you can trust this guy?
He hits you? That's how you can get help. Call your local domestic abuse hotline and they can actually put you up in a shelter in a hidden location and give you legal assistance.
2007-11-27 10:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get an education and a job. People only play games if you let them...plain and simple.
2007-11-27 10:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File and get low-cost atty....he (husband) will have to pay your legal costs.
All the other stuff is just "blah blah" and of no consequence.
2007-11-27 10:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by that judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not *all* men, sweetie - just the one you picked.
2007-11-27 11:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋