gf doesn't want any christmas gifts. WTF?

Question

Well my long time gf says she doesn’t want anything for Christmas. its her worst holiday, she says. We told each other were not getting each other nothing, I only said that cause she’s the first girlfriend to say she doesn’t want anything, kind of in shock. I want to get her something but not sure how she would take it. I’m sure she's not getting me anything cause of financial reason, she started going back to school.

I don’t care if i get anything but she's special to me and i want to show it. the only people she's getting gifts for is her family. I would feel weird if I did’nt get her anything ITS CHRISTMAS for sake

what if i get her jewellery? girls cant say no to that

Answer 1

respect her wishes i did the same for a few years due to a family member passed away at that time so i didnt feel the much need to even decorate at that time of year but he did the most adorable thing he went and made a big basket with his and her pjs and robes slippers hot coco soda chips pop corn candy and a few dvds we sat and watched videos and i can honestly say that wasone of the best x mas i have ever had

Answer 2

i would say that 'every girl says don't get me anything, i don't want anything' but if you don't then your in deep sh*t... buuuut she really said that it's her worst Holiday??? wow, well in that case, the first thing i thought of is that you should get her something to show her that you care, but maybe give it to her on Christmas Eve, or something, and don't wrap it in Christmas paper, or put it in a Christmas bag... use a neutral color, and tell her it's not a Christmas gift, it's just something you wanted to do for her because you love and care for her. I think Jewelry is a fine idea, i would go with a necklace. It's very nice, but not so eternal, so it won't be scary

Answer 3

Well butters, this is what I think...first of all, I always tell my husband I don't want anything for Christmas but would feel bad if he didn't get me anything..I just do it to see what he would do and really I don't expect anything expensive just something from the heart...next..my family like mom and sister-brother are always mentioning they are broke for Christmas for heavens sake there are alot of inexpensive gifts out there that are nice..for example my 16 yr. old son who works parttime after school always buys me something nice for Christmas, like last year he bought me a filigree heart bracelet for $8.00 that he got at a craft show and it is beautiful so dude her not buying you anything or doing something simple is not acceptable...there is more to this....If you really want to give her something for Christmas it doesn't have to be something bought--you could cook her a candlelight dinner, give her a massage, take her ice skating....I don't know how old you both are or where you live to give you a better answer...If you really want to give her something nice you could give her a gift certificate to get her nails done which would run around $20.00 . Maybe a nice book or make a gift basket with snacks, chocolates for her to take to school..you can go to peacefulpaths.com and they have nice gift baskets for $30.00 Girls are picky about jewelry but I wouldn't spend much money if she said she didn't want anything but you need to do something small....

Answer 4

I'm the same way as your girlfriend, it drives my husband crazy. I don't celebrate it (although I do the tree and gifts for my kid sake) and when I say I don't want anything, I mean it. Instead of buying her something, take her somewhere. Get her tickets to a show, take her to a place she has always wanted to go, sign her up for a spa, go bungy jumping. There has got to be something she would like to do. Who knows. She doesn't want presents, but everyone likes to experience something. Its the memories that matter, not the gift.

Answer 5

If you really want to get her something for Christmas, just get something not too expensive but elegant looking. That way, you still respect her wishes. Jewelry is a good idea. Perhaps even a small bath and body gift set. If she asks, say you couldn't resist.
Merry Christmas!

Answer 6

You sound like a really sweet, kind, and thoughtful guy. She's lucky to have you as a boyfriend it seems. If you want to get her gift then do so. You know she will love it. I'm sure money is the reason that she's not able to get you something. School is very expensive.

Answer 7

You said she's going back to school, so get her something she can use for school. A bag to carry her books, pens, pencils, highlighters, notebooks, etc. And then get her something small to go with it. Does she collect anything? Does she wear costume jewelry? You can get lots of cute, cheap jewelry right now. Get her an ornament for the tree, maybe a personalized one.

She probably said she didn't want anything because she can't afford to get you something. She probably wouldn't mind so much if you got her something useful and/or didn't spend a lot of money.

good luck!

Answer 8

Please don't fall for this. Sometimes we don't have anything in mind that we particularly want but we still want to get gifts. I hate X-mas too in a way b/c i get sad and depressed about my dad. But for a moment while opening the gifts my b/f gets me I feel happy and special and loved. Not because of the material things but because of the thoughtfulness and effort he puts into it. So i appreciate that. Get her something small if you'd like and tell her how you feel. She will appreciate it.

Answer 9

So don't get her anything for Xmas. Perhaps what you could do instead is just do something special with/for her rather than get her something. It sounds like Xmas is very stressful for her so you just helping her out with her obligations may be most appreciated. I don't know where you live but since in Australia, its Summer, I'd take her out for a picnic on the beach and pamper her for an afternoon - without mentioning that its about Xmas. Its quite possible that she may also feel obligated to return the favour re a gift. The trick is to do something special but without her feeling that there are strings attached.

Answer 10

maybe you need to find out why Christmas is her worst holiday and do something to change her mind about how she feels about Christmas. i know plenty of us gals that would say we don't want anything, but as soon as we didn't get anything-we'd get upset :-) seriously, try making Christmas a fun holiday again. doesn't necessarily have to be something expensive, just thoughtful.