Why do so many adult children live off their parents and never move out ?

Question

Is it their fault or the parents and what type people sponge like that?

Now a days the wife and husband make a living so what is the excuse now?

Answer 1

i think bnecause they get so comfortable with being home and having things done for them

Answer 2

Many factors at play here. When they were growing up, around the 80's, there was a recession on. Things were not so easy. But with the 90's came what looked like a stable economy and things were getting better. If any lessons on money management was learned for them in the 80's the 90's soon lead them to forgetting that. Now that they are at the ages to move out and make a life for themselves, they have no idea how to manage money or even any aspect of their lives. And with another weak economy, they can't afford to live on their own. Rent is getting higher and higher and it's all to common to see foreclosure sings on the front lawns of houses. Kids are scared to go out on their own today. And even some parents are scared to let them. So everyone lives in their fake world in hope that it will one day be better.

Answer 3

The parents allow it. The parents have not given the person incentive to go out on their own. Perhaps the person is not prepared to stand alone. Perhaps the person feel some obligation to take care of the parents or the property where they live (Assuming the parents cannot). Perhaps there is pressure from the parent for the person to stay with them.

There are many plausible reasons. As for the spngers - well, as long as the parents tolerate it why give up a good thing.

Answer 4

A friend of mine lived at home after high school. He did not live off them and had a decent post office job. He did household chores for them as they aged/had medical problems. He helped with expenses also. When they passed away, he kept the house and lived there until he died. His brother had no qualms with this as far as I know.

I think he did this because he loved his parents and vice versa.

I never saw anything wrong with this setup. If he did not work and expected them to support him I would have had a different opinion maybe.

It really depends on the situation.

Answer 5

not sure about the rest of the world, but in the UK house prices are so expensive that young people cant afford to move out. Even a modest terraced or three bed semi detached is about £150,ooo, who can afford that?
If they were to rent, they would have to pay about £500 -£600 per month on the rent, and so would never be able to save enough. We were lucky, we bought our house in the early 1990's, before the housing boom. I really dont know how people manage these days. We are saving for our young sons now so they can have a big deposit when they need it for their property.

Answer 6

Yes, it is the parents' fault. They allow the adult children to live with them instead of insisting they grow up and make it on their own. Parents these days are so invested in their one or two kids they just can't let go and have no desire for their spoiled little darlings to have to face any adversity.

Answer 7

It is both their faults and it is cheaper for them to live with their parents and the Parents need to let them grow up and move out on their own so they can know what their Parents went through.

Answer 8

Oh its their fault and they know exactly what they are doing. They are called freeloading bums. The parents should kick them out on their butts and then they would have to get a job and fend for themselves but the parents love them and suffer through because they do not have the heart to kick their child onto the streets. They are no longer children but they will keep taking advantage because they are feeloading bums.

Answer 9

I think the answers In the question?. They are Indeed adult children.In the true sense of the word.
The other answer, I think Is they are sponging B......., that have no Intention of moving out of the "Cushy Live, In which case there Parents should sling them out. Simple as that, perhap,s they will learn to "Swim for themself". Either that or drown.

Answer 10

It's all down to the parenting skills or Lack thereof that causes this new phenomena!
I find it quite sad that this generation of parents have given in to pamper-power and lavishing luxuries on offspring!

It makes for an imbalanced individual that has No get-up-and-go in them or desire to achieve for themselves!
I could go on all day!
But it's just overall Sad!!

Answer 11

I would say it is mostly the parents fault for allowing it but after a while it becomes the child's fault. When a 30 yr old is still living with his/her parents that becomes more the 30 yr old's fault for not wanting to be more ambitious and independent.

It's really a shame that this happens because there is no better feeling than getting your own place and supporting yourself. It's such a freeing feeling and a feeling that you don't owe anybody anything!