Do you think it possible to fall in love, real love not lust or infatuation, with someone you haven't met?

Question

Not speaking in religious terms. Talking about a pen pal, internet, or even phone someone.

I've seen it happen with friends. You get to know someone by heart that way first. But I think it takes time and caution. This is going on the premise that both people are 100% who they present themselves to be though.

King-Marvelously well put answer, thanks for sharing.

Answer 1

You really do ask some marvellous questions dont you.

Real LOVE is one thing that in no way shape or form can be imitated.
When two people who are MEANT to be together meet each other whether it be via snail mail, internet or phone then in that case there is no division between LOVE. Who was it that said "LOVE will find a way." it may even be a variation of Jeff Goldblums infamous quote in "Jurassic Park" when he rightly said "Life will find a way."

I myself do believe in REAL LOVE. LOVE thats MEANT to be at the end of the day it doesnt really matter when or where SOULMATES meet the important and most overriding factor is that with them its real LOVE.

There will of course be those who see the other side of the coin and dont believe but hey thats only human nature and as such represents the world as a whole. But I know of many people who have met via the (as some would say) non conventional ways.

Answer 2

Great question!!

BUT NO!!

We should all know "LOVE" is different to almost everyone. Moreover it is more physical than mental!!

However, it would always be better if it was based on mental compatibility, respect or friendship!!

But most Matching companies, don't work as well as speed dating!!

Most think love is that feeling in their stomach that hurts when missing the other!! OR the feeling when they re-see each other!! However this feeling never last, long enough!! Therefore is the major cause the most break-ups!!

What I mean is .....Research has shown how the mind and body works in relationships. Most are not based on good communication and compatibility, instead physical feelings, “chemistry”. The best have that and lot MORE!! Relationships for a million years are based mostly on physical first, last and always, especially today!! Than and only than, to fulfill the WANTS AND NEEDS, right? Than if that is going well enough, we all look for other compatibilities like, respect, trusting and supportive behavior. Also a good balance of opposites with lots of shared values and interest, right!!

However all relationships would benefit by advance testing!! The best TEST is budgeting and planning out time, energy and money for the next 5 years, separately!! Than test for compatibility, respect, and most of all try to work out a compromise. During the compromise foucs on the communication styles and actions mostly, not what but how you come to an agreement. Than also look to see if you can really live this way!! But remember everyone DOSE change! Everyone changes a lot from year to year, mostly apart. We all get board with the same old thing every day to eat and look at!! We all like to learn new things to spend our money, time and energy on. So every relationship, benefits by always improving their communication, goals, and responsibility’s productivity.

But most, will never know who they are really with, without a complete personality profile and background check? Than lots of games and tests, to see how each deals with time, energy and money dissensions, under real life pressure and changes, right?

So this is hard if not imposable to do online, especially the physical love.

SO NO WAY

But you can respect, like and make them a life time friend

Answer 3

Yep, it's possible. My wife and I are living proof.

We met on teh intarnets. We began as rivals in an online game, and eventually we started talking in chat, then on the phone, then finally met up in person.

The online medium is cool in a way because you aren't put off by stuff that might ordinarily prevent you from speaking with someone, it's just you and them, in text or voice, not being put off by what each other looks like or by packs of friends making judgements as you check each other out from afar.

In a way, it's like living with someone without actually living with them. You interact with someone on a daily or nightly basis for a while, you get to see how their mind works, and that helps you both determine whether there is a spark which could burst into a flame of love (awwwww).

Answer 4

Yes I do. I met my b/f on line a little over four years ago now. We talked on IM and the message boards or e-mail for the first year and we mutually fell in love. We didn't meet for a whole two years...and its been the best relationship either one of us has ever had. Its based first on friendship, and then trust.....you get to know the person from the inside out - without the physical aspects involved. Don't get me wrong, that is important too...but truly, if its true love.....its the inside that counts the most.....what makes the person tick, think, feel....yeah, its possible....

Answer 5

There are some who believe that...maybe this will add some credence to the argument that it is possible to fall in love without meeting
Von Meck and Tchaikovsky's correspondence would grow to over 1,200 letters between 1877 and 1890. The details of these letters are extraordinary for two people who would never even meet, let alone become lovers.
In 1845 she (Elizabeth Barrett Browning) met her future husband, Robert Browning, who had written to her after the publication of her Poems. They wrote for years before they met.
As for myself....I do not believe you can meet on line and fall in love in 15 minutes and want to spend the rest of life with that unknown someone. In these extreme times of murder and mayhem that may make me unromantic...but at least it is survival

Answer 6

I think you can fall in love through the written word in the world war two a lot of people wrote to one another and when the war was over they got married and have been married 50 to 60 years .

Answer 7

I am not sure about that..but I do strongly believe that people fall in love with the idea of being in love ..and sometimes another person just has the right words and you want it so bad that you will fool yourself into thinking your in love but your not..your just in love with the idea that this could be that fairytale love.However..I have also learned in my days that anything is possible..and we all have soul mates out there ..and if one should find you through letters then why not! : ) good luck

Answer 8

I know it's possible. I am in love with Smokin Gun and love him more each day. We started out as contacts, then friends and emailed all the time. We both agreed there was more than friendship and it has only gotten better. He now calls me on the phone and it is great.
Yes, it is possible.

Answer 9

Sure.It depends on how long you've known each other.But IN NO WAY THE INTERNET!!! Haven't there been enough horror stories of people taken others for "a ride"? There are too many unstable people out there.

Answer 10

Yes I Do I am completely in LOVE with fickleNIF♥™ We met in here and the relationship has been growing ever since into TRUE LOVE its so amazingly sweet and REALLY Real
I wish I had met her 20 yrs ago I LOVE HER that much I love HER so Much that SHE is my Wifey and LOVE and Mrs NIF
and WE are planning a REAL life together someday in the future