most years for xmas i have cooked for family and it's been great!!
i do lots of cooking for family
ie birthday treats/bbqs!
anyway, for the last 2 years I have cooked for my hubby and kids and my mum cooks for my brothers,sisters etc!!
I just feel that just for 1 year it would be nice for mum to ask her grandchildren to dinner
she has not got the room for everyone but my brothers and sisters are in their 40's so they could do something themselves!???
my children and my hubby and i have never been asked!!
2007-11-27 00:31:16 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
don't get me wrong my mum is great and very generous and i love her!
2007-11-27 00:41:49 · update #1
bex!
my mum would not do it for everyone as she would not be able to cope as her house is too small!!
I get cross as they always seem to assume that i will do things here!!
she would not come to me on her own without my brothers n sisters!
yup my j=kids are still here
13,16,17
bless them
xx
2007-11-27 04:41:00 · update #2
woops slipof the finger there!
kids*
2007-11-27 04:41:53 · update #3
witton ender
she would not come without the others!!
my brother still goes to my mums every weekend and he is in his 40's!!
he is single
2007-11-27 04:44:22 · update #4
Just ask mum round to yours, tell her the children have asked you to ask her, as they missed her last year. Then more than likely she'll understand or may have been waiting for rescuing.
Let the others do their own thing for once.
Then next year your children will do the inviting to hers for themselves.
2007-11-27 01:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by witton ender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mum thinks that you like it the way it is - i.e. with your own family and doesn't want to interfere or put pressure on you.
Talk to her about it - why don't YOU suggest you and your family go for dinner. Or you offer to cook for everyone if you like cooking so much. Maybe it would be nicer if you could all be in the same place if you house is big enough???
Enjoy Christmas whatever you decide :o)
2007-11-27 08:36:51 · answer #2 · answered by Nicola 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your family probably think that you like been the hostess with the mostest.
When you next chat to 'mum' why not just ask her if you can come to hers for a change. Tell her that the kids would love it.
Good Luck
:-)
2007-11-27 08:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by bagpuss 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ahh thats a tough one heidi ,if your mums cooking anyway wouldn't it be fair for you to have an invite as well, i'm assuming your siblings still live at home do they ? i would just ask her , and if she refuses at least you know where you stand . christmas should be a time for enjoyment and being with your family ,i hope whatever you are doing you have a good one , god us mums need a break sometimes good luck !!!
2007-11-27 10:38:05 · answer #4 · answered by ♥BEX♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send out a letter ..tell everyone that you love to cook..but would rather not this year..and see if maybe someone else has been waiting for this opportunity so they can do it at their house...its not rude..what is rude that the entire family assumes you will do it every year..then make a date to go to your moms house..your family and eat with her there
2007-11-27 12:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by bailie28 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww.. yeah it would get to me. Have you talked to her about this? But of course don't be confrontational or seem manipulative otherwise she'll probably do the same. Just from experience - I'm not saying that you are, trust me, when I've been completely genuine but I didn't word something right it's blown up in my face and I'm left dumbstruck
2007-11-27 08:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh isn't Christmas a joy? It must be the number one cause of family tension.
It's about time that they did what was being mooted a few weeks ago and ban the whole tedious thing.
2007-11-27 08:39:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i too am the one that always ends up in the kitchen, being an ex chef! and i tend to find that in cases like this sometimes people dont ask for fear of putting you on the spot and feeling bad about turning them down, you have establishes a tradition and they dont want to rock the boat, i bet if you spoke to her she would welcome you and the rest of the family-no matter how big of a squash it is, thats what christmas is all about, have a massive bash together, mums just LOVE that kinda thing, hang up your apron and just speak to her,
2007-11-27 08:35:46 · answer #8 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you would really like to spend xmas day with her! Even offer to help make dinner! Explain to her how you feel! She would probably be upset to think you are upset!
Go! Ask her!
2007-11-27 08:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by emzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell you mum the way you feel. She might want to invite you but thinks you're happier doing your own thing. You'll never know unless you talk to her about it. :o)
2007-11-27 08:52:29 · answer #10 · answered by Don 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋