I'm 30, is life over?

Question

I thought I had it all figured out, now sh!t ain't the same....I feel like I can never be a hottie again!

Answer 1

A hottie....well, let's face it - you have to find some other descriptions for your sex-appeal, or charm, or whatever it is that you might have. I mean, a hottie with the face lift can't be classified as such. Which is not to say that women at any age cannot be attractive. They might be cranky and dissatisfied, which might take away from their attractivness. I belive that the true beauty comes from inside i.e. from the love, kindness, and good intentions that you have accumulated throughout the years. If you have those you will never regret anything. WOw, i can't believe im saying this:). Good luck.

Answer 2

Not at all! We all go though stages in life.... Its like when you finally think you have figured out what primary school is all about your dumped right into highschool.... Its all a learning prossess, now and forever....

Why would you want to stop changing, to stop learning? If you don't feel like a hottie anymore than its probably just your brain looking at the age 30 and thinking you cant be hot once you are 30... which is not true at all by the way....

Release your inner beauty, and maybe try to find some meaning in your life beyond your hottness to release your mind into this new stage of life.... Embrace it, love it, live it, because you can never go backwards, only forwards.....

(by the way, im 21 and I have been attracted to 30yr olds before, so I dont think your over the hill in the looks department just yet)

Answer 3

no , life isnt over at 30, and dont think you ever have it all figured out, though you may of figured out things for that time of your life, know that you will move on, both in age and mind, and have new things to figure out in the future
as to hottie, what did you base that on? appeal , clothing, body, face, attitude? you can take those same things into the next phase of your life
no, you wont be a hottie in the sense of a twenty year old, but you can be in the sense of a thirty year old, keep in mind that all those people who considered you a hottie in the twenties, have now also moved on (if you are considering how others view you, rather then just your own concept)
really hottie is as much about attitude as appearance, though appearance is nice also, nothing wrong with developing that part of yourself
and think how lucky you are, nowdays with all the advanced creams , with gyms and health information, there is so much one can do with the outside, and with all the information available so easily, there is so much one can do with the inside
i am 53, and i am hot! lol
ps: another little bit of information, if you ever feel you need support in thinking positive about yourself, and you are not getting that from the environment you are in, change your environment, this applies to both physical and mental boosting,

Answer 4

It depends on where you place your values. If you are focused on materialism and sensuality, then yeah, after 30 things tend downhill. A woman from about 17 to late 20s is rather attractive. Then after 30 here comes the weight, the wrinkles, and the stuff that time and age is made of. You won't be a hottie again, so start looking for other things. Whatever you do, don't show up at the beach with the bikini, gold, makeup and expect that the guys will look at you like the pretty young woman on the next blanket.

Answer 5

My life didnt really begin untill I was 30.
If your biggest accomplishment so far has been "being a Hottie" I cant offer you much consolation. It gets worse.
old age is not kind to vanity.
life isnt a flat path but one of steps ,we leave the step of childhood to ascend the step of adolesence,taking with us the good and leaving behind what doesnt work ,and so on.
Im sure you have good qualities you can take with you to the step of middle age.
the biggest mistake a woman can make is to try to hold on to superficial beauty of youth, she must go on to find the internal beauty of a mature woman .an example (true example) is the 35 year old woman that showed up at the town picnic with her 15 year old .both wearing matching tube tops and short shorts,makeup and hairdos.
In trying to hang on to what worked in the past to gain attention and admiration had the opposite effect and she was humiliated.
you will never be a teenage hottie again which is mostly superficial anyway,but you can become beautiful on all levels.
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Answer 6

Don't worry about leaving your "hottie" status behind. If you take good care of yourself, you'll get more desirable as you get older, and your adventurous side takes in more angles and allows you to be more yourself than just arm candy.

All aspects of my own life got better as I got older. Everyone has some periods where the career is blazing, but the sex is less frequent, or where family is clicking along but work is not as fulfilling. But overall, life gets better for me each year.
While some years were spent in transition from one role to another, you could say that I spent my 20's growing up, my 30's raising my child, my 40's with my work, and so far my 50's refining and redefining myself. Each decade has built upon the one before it. All have had challenges. However, I think it is fair to say that each decade has gotten better. I would not trade any of them because they were right for me at the time.

Welcome to adulthood. This IS, by the way, where the BEST sex is!

Answer 7

Hottie is an attitude. If you are beautiful, feel beautiful, exude beauty...then you are still a hottie.

Looks are not everything. If it were, the "beautiful" girls would never get dumped. It takes more than looks to be beautiful. You have to be beautiful inside and out to be a true "hottie". Otherwise you are just some good looking person that guys want to sleep with.

So, really, you may not ne a true hottie until you figure that out and it may be in your 30's.

Answer 8

You liked being a hottie because... ?

Anyway, at 30, life is all downhill, which isn't a bad thing, really. Stability comes with some perks, although you might not get all excited about them and stuff.

The dramas of life may not seem well, that big a deal any longer, but you get to enjoy controlling your own life a lot more. You can hit play, fast forward, rewind, pause and replay almost at will.

Great question, by the way. I didn't realize it until I read all the answers.

Answer 9

Bein a hottie is at least as much in the mind as it is the body. Older people have more experience, more condfidence and usually are more relaxed. Your hottness will only get better. Heck, you won't hit your sexual peak till you're 35.

Answer 10

No, just make sure you act your age. People over 30 who try to act like they are still teens or early twentysomethings come across as kind of sad. People over 30 who act like they are over 30 can be very attractive in a more adult and dignified way. What makes a 20-year-old attractive is different from what makes a 30-year-old attractive.