2007-11-26 23:59:11 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Say your parents divorced, and your dad remarried. That woman would be your step-mom. If you get married, and he has no kids, you wouldn't be a step-mom.
2007-11-27 00:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by V 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is no legal relationship between stepparents and stepchildren. So you do have a choice as to how much you want to be involved.
Originally, the term stepparent or stepchild used to refer to orphans who were raised by non-biological parents. That changed over time and now the term's used to include children from previous marriages when the biological, non-custodial, parent is still alive.
If the child spends half of the time or all the time in your house, you have a moral obligation to parent the child, not a legal one.
The reality is that when you marry a person who has children, those children are a part of their life and they will become a part of your life, like it or not. It wouldn't be fair to the child to sit back and say: none of my business.... I'm not feeding the child or no, the child can't stay here. If you have a hard time with the idea of stepparenting, my advice would be not to marry someone who has children.
2007-11-27 08:21:47 · answer #2 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you marry someone who has a kids under 18, you have an obligation to be a step mother to them. If they're older than 18, you usually aren't much of a mother to them, but you would still have the title.
There is often a stigma around the title of "step mother", but you choose what kind of figure you want to be to those children.
2007-11-27 08:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A step mom is just like a regular mom, except your rights, opinions, and other things in some cases, are ignored. If you don't have children, then being a step mother is definitly going to be a crazy experience. A lot of this will depend on how the father acts. Ofcourse you can say "no, I am not your mother, don't depend on me. I won't take you to school, no you can't have any of my money, no I won't wash your clothes, no i won't take you and your friends to the movies." But, that really sounds like someone who is a selfish b. I love being a step mom. Sure it's not like having your own. But when my 6 yr old step son says "i love you" to me, it warms my heart like he is my own.
2007-11-27 08:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by MGrnl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have a choice. Don't marry a man with children. Simple as that.
2007-11-27 08:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by Elt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A stepmother is a woman who is married to one's father after the divorce of one's parents or the death of one's mother.
You don't have a choice as far as I know.
2007-11-27 08:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by Alexa_V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, really you have no choice of being a step mom if u marry someone who has kids, & if you deny the kids or not involved with them more than likely your husband would dump you...or if he didn't i think he would be doing his children wrong, sorry thats my opinion
2007-11-27 08:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by yahooligan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you married a man with children then that title is bestowed upon you if he has children from a previous marriage. I don't like the title either...my husband has children from a previous marriage....I prefer the title of friend...as that is really what I am..I am not their mother in any way.
2007-11-27 08:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by Rein 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have married the childs father then you have no choice. You dont have to do the full on mumsy thing. Just being friends should be enough until your bonds grow.
2007-11-27 08:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by Freckles2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are married to a person that already has children, you are the step-parent to your spouse's children, whether you like it or not.
2007-11-27 08:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by ~RedBird~ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋