i am gay and i dont know how to tell my parents, can someone please tell me how i could tell them, im 17?

Question

please help me and give me some idea of how to tell them

Answer 1

Pick the parent that you think will most likely take it the best, pull them aside and have a nice talk with them and explain it to them. Realize it might take them some time to come to grips with it. After breaking it to the easy parent and they have had time to come to grips with it, then break it to the more difficult parent.

Do NOT do it at a family function. It does not give the parents the chance to come to terms with it in their own mind and it is like getting blindsided in front of a bunch of witnesses. They need to come to terms with it before it becomes a well known extended family fact. Also, if you do it one at a time, they can not gang up on you.

Answer 2

Don't be in such a big rush to tell them. If I were you, I would wait until I was 18. Then tell only your mother at first, in a setting and time that would be most conducive to this. But make it a time and place that you are both relaxed, in a good frame of mind and are not rushed for time. Be sincere about it - no joking around or anything like that.

I say tell your mother first because mothers tend to accept this sort of thing better than fathers, who sometimes go off the deepend, and may say or do things that are not appropriate. I suggest that when you tell your mother, you also indicate to her that you will wait about telling your father until the appropriate time. Chances are that by that time she will have told him about it, discretely, and it will be easier for you.

If you have any siblings and you feel that you want them to know as well, then wait until some time has passed after telling your parents.

Answer 3

Actually I left the house ON MY OWN at 17; so that would have been the perfect time for me to tell my parents :) I couldn't stand living wtih my parents; what a sick environment. One was an alcoholic and the other a flamboyant heartless adulterer. And to boot, my baby half brother was in the middle of all this mess. :|

Maybe you shouldn't tell them. Some kids have been disowned or kicked out of the house cause their parents have found out they were gay. Your sexuality isn't something that really should be broadcasted anyway. Why is it anyone's business who you're hob knobbin' in bed or who you choose to love?

I wouldn't tell them unless you're sure they love you unconditionally. To some parents finding out their kid is gay is gets the same reaction as if someone found out their best friend was getting a sex change.

However, eventually you're going to have to tell them, because they're going to wonder why that "roommate" has lasted so long. :).. By then you won't have to worry about living by their rules.

Answer 4

Honesty is always the best policy. Tell them as soon as you can pluck up the courage and what a relief you will have. If you find it so difficult, write a letter - you were born the person you are now so do not be ashamed or anything like that. Confide in a trustworthy person first for support and it will be like shifting a great weight offf your mind. Good luck. Another thing, sometimes parents know that you are different and may be waiting for you to tell them. xx

Answer 5

A lot of people say just sit them down and tell them. It's a lot easier to say than to do. Some say the parent's don't want to know. That is based on their own parents. You know your parents. Are they reasonable, rational people who respect you as a maturing young adult? Or are they controlling, critical people? If they are reasonable, they will accept you as you are. If they are controlling, or potentially abusive, then wait until you are on your own. Find a support group in your area. You have internet access so it won't be difficult to find. If you trust your school counselor, then go to them and ask for advice. You have many options. There isn't a need to rush.

Answer 6

well... it's not easy to tell you just how to come out without knowing your situation and environment. It depends on many thing like how does your family feel about gays? Does your family know or have any gay friends? etc...

If not then better think twice. You might be surprised how tough it is. Or you could be lucky if they take it well. The question is... are you ready for the wost case scenario?

If you're not then don't. Wait until you're ready for the worse case scenario.

Well... i could go on and on but feel free to email me and chat. ^_^

Answer 7

If your parents are understanding then sit them down and tell them upfront. If they are the type that might need a bit of easing in, you could try making sure they overhear a phone call with you suggesting how cute this "guy you like" is and drop a few subtle hints. Then once you feel you are perfectly ready then sit them down and tell them.

What gender you like is irrelevant, you are their son and they will love you anyway

Good luck :)

Answer 8

Hello from England, Bobby. It might surprise you to know that they may have a good idea already - which makes the coming out to them much easier.

You haven't suddenly grown two heads overnight: you are still their beloved child - so tell them. God made you to be YOU - not anyone else!

Good luck! I wish you well.

Answer 9

Why do you feel the need to tell them? You're obviously not ready to do so, you can leave it until you are more comfortable. I do believe a person's sex life is their own business, I don't like labels, either.
To your parents, you are beloved. They will not look for faults and if there is no real reason to confront it, in my opinion, leave it.

Answer 10

I'm not the expert or anything but i know a few people that have told their parents in a text message or e-mail and wait for them to send one back for their approval or not, its alot easier than just telling them and waiting for that awquard silence.


Kaysha. xoxo