Don't you think a 55 year old woman is too old to be spanked by her husband for disobedience?

Question

Okay, so there is like these women in my group that are spanked by their husband for rolling their eyes or talking back and they are over 55! I'm only 20 myself but I think at that age women should know not to do that to their husbands but also I think that maybe there are other ways to punish older women because I'm thinking they would bruise easier and things. I know man is the head of the house and I guess he can do what he wants, but don't you think that is too old? I'm just curious to know what others think. Thanks!

Answer 1

In most 'modern' societies, the only way that a man is the 'head of the house' is because both participants decide they want it that way.

If a couple has decided that they want to have a relationship that includes spanking for infractions (domestic discipline), whether the woman is 20 or 55 isn't really relevant. Not what I want, but if it makes them both happy, who are we to judge?

For heaven's sake, people, there are 55 year-olds running marathons. She didn't say ninety. I don't think anyone is getting a broken hip. LOL

Answer 2

WTF!? "Punish?" You think there are "other ways to PUNISH older women... man is the head of the house and he can do what he wants"? Girl, you really need some better role models.

In a marriage, NOBODY should be "punished." The vows do not say "Do you take this woman to be your property so you can manipulate her into behaving in a manner you see fit" and "Do you take this man to be your owner so that he can do whatever he wants and you'd better not roll your eyes or he can punish you."

Geesh. People disagree, and inside a marriage is no exception, but if BOTH the people are adults, there is no punishment for disagreement and for showing your irritation. There is communication and figuring out where communication broke down, and there is compromise, and there is agreeing to disagree when two ideologies just do not mesh over certain issues.

I think women who are punished for "rolling their eyes or talking back" are being abused both emotionally and physically. Their husbands are controlling, and neither they nor their wives have ever emotionally matured.

Answer 3

I'd agree with Evil Twin - these friends of yours are almost certainly into playing spanking games with their husbands, and 'rolling their eyes or talking back' sounds like deliberate bratting to get the spankings they enjoy.

As for bruising - no reason an older women would bruise more easily than a young one, especially if she's been getting regularly spanked for years.

Answer 4

Excuse me but when did a husband get licenses that say he can discipline a wife, period? A marriage is the joining of two people, both equal. I don't think that the husband is meant to be a parental figure to his wife. That's his job with the children. My hubby tried that on me ONCE. He told me I could not do something. My answer to him was--"the last time I looked on my birth certificate, he was not my father. I already had one and he was the only person who could tell me what to do, and that was a long time ago! And if he doesn't want me to do something he can ASK me not to do it but DO NOT tell me I CAN'T." We can discuss it and then decide. If my husband ever layed a hand on me, for something I did wrong, he'd be waking up in an ambulance with a frying pan face! No where does it say that a husband is supposed to spank his wife unless, well, you know!!

Answer 5

You might want to get her into counseling as well as your husband. After a certain point human beings begin accepting pain as a kind of love and attention. That happens more often than most people think because those it happens to do not tell others. If spanking is a constant ritual in your home it is no longer discipline, it is an attention ritual. Something I never see in these kinds of posts. They never mention trying to find out why the child did whatever they did that the questioner judged they would have to be struck.

Answer 6

Men who beat their wives by spanking or any other form of
physical or verbal abuse are definitely in need of serious prayer. Any man who cannot control himself, has no right to be married to any woman.
I admit that as a man I have wanted to really hurt some women, but as a man I am constrained to rise above such feelings.
GOD FORBID that any man should ever do such a thing to a
woman. Women are women, to be loved and cherished, they
are NOT punching bags.
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TO THE MEN!!! If you feel the need to spank your lady, then take the punishment yourself. That is the Bible Way!!!
Christ took the sin of mankind on Himself. You are to bear the sin of your wife. You can avoid punishment by repentance, forgiveness, and prayer. Do it.
I Cr 13;8a, Ps 122;6, Ps 92;1

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EDIT: It does not matter what the teaching of Islam or any
other religions say. Hitting a woman is a great sin, and God
will not tolerate it. Men especially Muslims need to grow up and accept the fact God created women different from
men and it is never the job of a man to correct a woman by
physical beatings. For a man to beat his wife or any woman is a sign of extremely low self esteem.
No offense to anyone or any religion. Sorry, but there you are.

Answer 7

The man is the head of the house,but does not give him the right to do as he pleases.A real man would not abuse his wife in anyway.Nor would he treat her like a child. and rolling the eyes is not a childish act.It is a way of expressing your feelings on something.I can't believe the women are letting their man do that anyway.I would not be spanked[unless i wanted to be].I was abused in my first marriage .So for a man to hit me again would be a bad thing for them.

Answer 8

Any age is too old for spanking, I don't know where you live but thats not normal and men ar not always the head of the house. Maybe these women are in to kinky things with their hubbys like domination or a bit or s&m,
This is the year 2007, women have the rights to roll their eyes, speak their minds and do what ever they want without reprecussions from their mates. A marriage is equal partnership where neither has the right to abuse or control the other . Maybe these women are pulling your leg, have you thought about that? Who in thier right mind would want to marry someone who would abuse them for speaking their mind. Thats not love thats ownership.

Answer 9

Some women (and men) enjoy being spanked as part of their normal sex life. In fact, for many creative people there is a lot more to sex than simply finding a new position or location to "do it". If your middle-aged friends are being spanked for the relatively minor offenses you indicated then chances are they're very willing participants.

Answer 10

I'm just curious where you are from.. because here, in Canada and the United States, it is illegal for a man to hit a woman.

So yes, I think a 55 year old woman should NOT be spanked. Call the police if you know someone in an abusive situation.