He's only 14 and he doesn't care about the real life anymore. He's always playing video games and gets a bunch of Fs. He never does his homework and drives my mom crazy. I'm worried about my mom because she worries so much about it. Are there any movies I can get him to watch to show him how the real world really is? I think he plays videogames all day so he can escape reality. How can i help him? He doesn't even want to go to college.
2007-11-26 18:03:42 · 12 answers · asked by Aimee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if we try taking his games away he threatens to not even go to school. my mom can't make him go and my dad's not around.
2007-11-26 18:13:01 · update #1
this is because society expects and obligates you to do certain things which may not be the way you want to go about things and prevents one from becoming the person he/she truly wants to be...school doesn't provide the knowledge for the infinite paths of life which your brother may want to take and school tells you that that is the only path...expose your brother to different things: travel/graphic design/dance/etc...because the possibilities that he knows of may not be the things that he likes
2007-11-26 18:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by themasterwork 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What that kid needs is some counseling and some friends. Be positive with him always, don't be down on him. Negative and negative words are going to push him further down the spiral. You never know he could grow up to create the next great video game. Let him be and let him know that you love accept him for who he is. Make sure his home life is an escape, and don't expect him to change over night. It might take him into late adulthood, but don't give up and don't put him down.
What you can do for your mom, is be the best you that you can be. I'm a single mom as well, and girl it is not easy. I'm sure she feels like she's failed with your brother, and so many regrets. But you make sure you get good grades, and do everything you can to succeed. The world and your generation needs that from you real bad rite now.
Love each other girl, make sure if you don't succeed, if your brother doesn't come out of this, if mom has a nervous break down, make sure that your family knows they will always have each other.
2007-11-27 02:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by MessieJessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find a way to reach him , somehow . This is a very tricky situation but u might want to play the games with him . He is acting out for anyones attention , really screaming but will he would never admit it . I was once like that as a teen and felt no one understood me or what I was going thru , I turned out just fine but lots of kids I knew did not . This is the time for u and Mom to get him help anyway u can before it is too late . Talk to him , more importantly listen . Being a kid is no fun when people yell and tell u what to do . Be his best friend !
2007-11-27 02:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by christina i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question, try:
"The Gridiron Gang" staring "The Rock" based on a true story about a boy giving up on live and becoming a gang member and ended up in prison but found peace through football teamwork
Other than that you could take his video games away and take him out someone where and help him find and develop his real interests; since he likes games so much why not take him on a tour to a successful video gaming company?
2007-11-27 02:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
video games are a SERIOUS addiction. kids addicted to video games are 30% more likely to commit suicide. he need to see a councelor the best thing to do would be to take those things away from him but he will need to be monitored very closely if you do that. he needs help big time.
If he is saying he won't go to school if you take them away then that is a perfect oportunity to call the police and tell them he is skipping school, you're mom wont get in trouble for him skipping if she calls and jail will be a great reality check. it really HAS to be done.
2007-11-27 02:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by Shelby L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe.. take the games away from him.. he probably needs a break from them to realize hes in the real world. you cant survive on playing video games. until he raises his grades, and realizes reality, you should keep em away from him.. Video games can really corrupt someone if handled the way you described :P
good luck :]
2007-11-27 02:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by Krisy M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs a reality check. What will he do to pay for his lifestyle, whatever it is, if he doesn't graduate high school? Is your mother going to continue to support him? Where's his father in all this? He needs to face the fact that at some point, he's going to need to get a job, and he's going to at least need a HS diploma or a GED to do that.
2007-11-27 02:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by Spartacus! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he needs professional help. There are people who could help him. Go to the social welfare office for instance or to a counselor. :)
2007-11-27 02:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by bantugan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right he excape reality cause mabey he has alot of stress im secing he has a bully or people making fun of him help him
2007-11-27 02:15:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
he 14 honey im 15 and i play runescape the ffrist thing i do when i got home and then yahoo answer at night then go to bed there nothing worng with that its better to do this then doing drug or whatever
2007-11-27 02:07:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋