It's been almost a year since we've broken up, and I have been wanting to hang out with her and just be friends again. Is there anything I need to know with this situation?
2007-11-26 18:00:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First you need to know if you are actually over her or not. I know that a year seems like a long time, but if you haven't been talking to her or seeing her at all then it might all come back the first time you do. So after finding out if you are over her, you need to make sure she wants to be friends with you. If she isn't ready, or doesn't want to then don't stress the issue. Also, figure out if her talking to other boys will make you jealous while you are hanging out with her, cuz remember she is free game now. One thing I can tell you though is that the ex-boyfriend always has the advantage over any new guy that comes along and they should be jealous of you instead.
So if everything works out and you hang out with her, just make sure you aren't clingy about things, because that can scare her and push her away. If you truly wanna be friends, take things slow. Don't call her every day, don't e-mail her, and just don't creep on her, cuz she will want her space and will need to time to adjust to her newfound friend.
Good luck with everything!!!!
2007-11-26 18:05:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, make sure that you are sincere in wanting to be ONLY friends again....and she must have the same goal.
It always helps if you both have somebody else in your lives, so you won't be under any pressure to try to rekindle the former relationship.
Of course, it's difficult NOT to bring up the past and the fun times that you had. From my experience, I try would try keeping the topics light, and I wouldn't try monopolizing her time. Spend the most time with the new person that you have in your life, so you won't be tempted to start anew with your EX.
Very difficult situation, but manageable, if you have the right motive.
2007-11-27 02:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by Ladyhawke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people can end on a good note and be friends. However, the important thing is to ensure that friends is all that she is going to want and in the back of her mind she is not hanging on to hope of it working out. That can be the most grueling thing for those who can't let go!
2007-11-27 02:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by h Burke 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a girlfriend and as long as your ex keeps the past in the past and you guys can start a clean slate with each other and nothing inappropriate, then sure you can be friends with your ex. Hang out with her man.
2007-11-27 02:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by rcenigma5301 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea it's possible. I broke up with my ex almost 2 years ago. I found someone else and we got hitched. well just last weekend i ran into my ex he's dating a girl younger than me now lol. I'm very good friend's with her. So she pulls me up to him and sayz look who I found. Yea i wanted to die at that point, but we talked and all went well. so it's possible if you both want it to be that way.
2007-11-27 02:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on who she is, and how the breakup happened. Most of the time being friends with an ex is not too difficult, and it is like any other friend.
2007-11-27 02:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by niiro13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your asking then you know in the back of your mind that its probably not a good idea. just put it behind you. whats the point in hanging out again? what good will it do?
2007-11-27 02:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by amtech33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont kiss. being friends with an ex is to be treated like hes your brother. thats all. act liek that and you will both have fun.
2007-11-27 02:24:38 · answer #8 · answered by 00000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing
confront her
just be like i want to hang out sometime
be truthful
2007-11-27 02:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ur a strong man cuz I tryed it & it was Hell
U C her with other N**** but u can't say nothing
U C her & u start 2 think on wat could of been
ect
2007-11-27 02:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by DymonBacc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋