I have been going through a 3 year nasty divorce. It's finally over today! No more custody battle, divoce, bickering over support. DONE! Will life change for me and my kids now?
2007-11-26 17:21:10 · 5 answers · asked by Cindy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce, no matter how bitter or how long ago is never easy. From the training I have had it is like unto tearing something apart. It leaves rough edges that are very sensitive to feelings. Raw nerve endings you don't want touched.
One rule of thumb is it takes 1 year of healing for every 5 years of marriage. Even for the bitter ones. I have found this to be very true in my divorces.
Take your time and don't jump into any rebound relationships it can prove disastrous.
2007-11-26 22:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reality is that since you have children with your ex-spouse there will always be contact concerning the children.
Yes, life will be different for you personally as you will be able to move forward and be responsible for yourself without your ex-spouse in-put. You will be able to begin dating if you choose or to take your time before entering into another relationship. Your life will be what you desire to make it as you are the master of your own destiny.
Make your children know that they are not the reason for the divorce and that you and your spouse love them and both will be in partnership with caring for their best interest. Avoid using your children as pawns against your ex-spouse vice versa.
If you and your spouse are able to be united in the care of your children together then the children will not be able to try to manipulate either parent.
Best Wishes for a Happy Future
2007-11-27 02:09:44 · answer #2 · answered by snookums 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always see your ex as long as you see your children.
You guys need to be great friends for the children and for the sake of agreeing without the courts. Be in your childrens life no matter what it takes and show them lots of love. Everything else don't matter. Keep your head up and stay busy. It gets better everyday.
2007-11-27 01:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by Leonidas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you allow it, it should. Personally I went half that time with mine. And the day I received finality, I felt a weight lifted from my body. And when I went to bed that nite, I felt an unfamiliar feeling being surrounded in warmth, with the ability to tackle anything that came down the pike.
2007-11-27 01:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was bitter before then the fight has just begun.
If she is like most the harder they fought everything, the more they will fight after.
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Ask me any questions you may have.
Good Luck and I hope I am wrong in your case.
2007-11-27 01:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by eric_the_red_101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋