My best friend has left our school and me and my friends are really annoyed, because she didnt tell us. The first thing was the the 6 of us got split into our homegroups, 4 of us in 1 and 2 in the other. The friend who left was in the 2 person class and she started avoiding us, becoming distant. Then she didnt turn up for a while and she wouldnt return any of our calls or txts or emails, and we were getting really worried cause she had recently moved house but hadnt given us her address, just her phone number. Then we were told she had left the school and now one friend is left by herself cause its to late to change groups and we're upset cause she didn't tell us. Then suddenley out of the blue yesterday she txted me saying 'hehe...I'm coming friday lunchtime', like it was a joke! we're all fuming and we've thought about how she felt, but she should've taken us into consideration as well and now i dont know what to do. What should i say when i see her, apart from asking why?
2007-11-26 16:53:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Take a step back. Switching schools is a big thing, that her parents might have decided for her. There might be problems at home that she needed time to deal with: serious illness, divorce, or death of a family member would definitely distract her from telling her friends. Also if she's fighting with her parents then she might have been hoping to avoid the change, and was unable to tell you before it was forced on her.
Give her some time to explain the situation, if she can. And tell her that you were hurt and worried for her, but try to stay calm.
2007-11-26 17:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by Lola 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some of what was said.
If she is one of your BEST FRIENDS then you should just welcome her as if nothing happened. She might try to play this off as a joke because she doesn't want to talk about what has been going on with her right now.
But she is your friend, not just some girl that you've been pretending to be friends with. That means that you have her back, even when you don't know what is going on. She might not want to talk about it. Maybe sometime she'll tell you. Maybe not for a really long time.
Let her know that you're curious, but don't make it into a big dramatic fight. She's your friend.
But if she isn't your friend, she isn't your friend. If you stop talking to her that's because you decided to stop pretending. Not because she had issues and stopped hanging out for a couple weeks.
2007-11-27 01:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is important to any friendship. How will you understand her if you don't ask her why? Don't ask others, ask her, the very person whom you want to understand. Ask her if there has been a problem lately in the family. and open up to her how you felt about what she did. But never raise your voice. Remain calm. If you're a Christian pray for guidance before you confront her that everything that comes out of your mouth will not hurt you or her.
2007-11-27 01:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was kinda messed up, since she left the other girl alone in the groups. Say what you really feel.Do you still want to be her friend? Or are you really mad at her ? Maybe something went wrong with her family or stuff and she couldnt go to school.
Think about it, do the right thing :)
2007-11-27 00:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by Gloria S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, don't take it personally. Perhaps she had something happen to HER that made it difficult or impossible to talk about with anyone. I had a situation where a friend left suddenly like that without mentioning to anyone she was gone. Ends up she was being molested by an uncle and until he was put away she couldn't tell anyone anything, nor did she really want to talk about it. So my advice....grow up and stop assuming that people are against you.
2007-11-27 00:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by upserstar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you thinking about why she left and didnt tell you? Maybe she has some issues. You should just try and be supportive, ask her what her new school is like and how she is finding it.
2007-11-27 00:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by hannahxmay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is just a KID...like YOU!!
If it had been YOU that had done something like that....how would YOU have wanted to been treated????
We are ALL HUMAN and we all make silly crazy mistakes, for some odd reasons, we do silly things. WHY?? No one will ever know....We are HUMAN!!!!
I sure dont know why i do some of the silly ole things that I DO!! DO YOU Know why you do some of the things that YOU DO???? ? ! :)
Have a happy reunion!!! Be blessed that you have friends!
2007-11-27 00:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One the traits of being a friend is that of being understanding. It is best you give your friend a chance to explain why she did it - leaving without any word. Then you decide whether you would give her a chance or not.
2007-11-27 00:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by jovski1966 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be upset somtimes we don't no what the next day will bring? She is missed I can tell so just be happy to see her when you do.
2007-11-27 00:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like dumb stuff. Don't let it rock you. Go on with your friend as you were, BUT, watch her. Trust may be harder to give to someone who doesn't think of others.
2007-11-27 00:58:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋