Im having some roommate trouble. I live together with 3 other guys. The guy that I live with is never here so I have my own room while the other two guys share a room. One of them is very similar to me because we have a lot of the same interests and personality. The other one is very different. I am not as close to him, but we get along with fine. When we first met, we hung out all the time and everything was fine. However not to long ago, the one im not very close to talked the other one into living with him, his brother, and cousin next year without asking me. At first I was upset about this but I got over it. However ever since then I always felt more like a third wheel then part of the group. The guy I was close to is starting to become more like the other one. I have been avoiding them, but that just seems to make it worse. What should I do? Should I confront them about it or should I just move on? Any advice would be great. Thank You.
2007-11-26 16:48:54 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I hated that part about college, people tend to form roommates based on the need to find someone first rather then who they like best. No one wants to be the last person to find a room mate else they get stuck with someone they don't want.
I wouldn't take it too personally, it just sounds like they developed a stronger bond. Don't confront them, nothing good could come from it. Besides you don't want to feel awkward when you see them around campus.
Just focus on finding someone else, or getting your own room if that's possible. I think what happened to you is very common and luckily it's gets easier as the years pass because to get to know people better and find someone you want to room with year after year.
Do not approach them about rooming with you like that other person suggested- if they don't want to then it puts them in the awkward position of turning you down and you in the crappy position of being rejected. If they wanted to room with you they would have asked, so don't try to weasel your way in. I know that sucks but trust me it will work out in the end and you'll find someone else your more compatible with.
I had a similar situation in college, my freshman room mate wanted to room with someone else the next semester and I felt left out. But I ended up finding another girl and we were able to get a suite. Things never worked out with the other girl and she got into a big fight with her and left school but I continued to suite with my friend for the remainder of school (3 years). Funny how things work out....
2007-11-26 16:59:51 · answer #1 · answered by ♪♬ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to appear laid back, approach them in a humorous way. or try initiating things that you guys could do together and enjoy that will bring back the friendship. although if you see that it's all still not working out, then move on. honestly, everybody always changes. friends are NOT permanent, so don't let any of this really bother you. you just need to move out of the negative atmosphere and you'll see how great everything is.
2007-11-26 16:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest moving on and get in an environment
you feel comfortable with. good luck.
2007-11-26 16:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋