My Hubby Slapped My Face?

Question

we had a fight. i slapped him. he slapped my right cheek. then my left cheek. and i felt something warm all over my mouth. blood was all over my mouth. and then blood was all over the floor. i cannot understand what i am feeling right now

Answer 1

I'm sorry he hit you, but in the same context you hit him too. It's hypocritical for you to condemn him for the same thing you did. Forgive forget and just refrain from slapping each other.

Answer 2

I understand totally about being in an extremely violent and abusive relationship and I feel your pain but there are a lot of things to consider ... What brought on the fight and why did you slap him first? Is he usually violent or is this the first time? Either way I would suggest that you take a breath or two and try to relax as much as possible also if this is recent make sure you dont have a serious injury. If this just occured try to avoid any further argument tonight, tomorrow is a new day and maybe you and he can be clear headed and come to a better understanding.

Answer 3

Your feeling scared and hurt and so many other emotions that you cant explain in words unless someone has gone through it before. Even though you hit him first you felt inside that he should have taken it and not hit you back because he is a man and men are not suppose to hit girls under any circumstances. You feel i cant believe he did this and then at the same time you blame yourself because you feel if you had not hitten him first then he would not have laid a hand on you. The fact is that you probably had a very good reason for slapping him and it doesn't give a man the right to hit a woman and it's wrong. If you feel like your in a abusive relationship you need to get out as soon as possible because it's not safe and it's going to get so much worse. If you get into that situation you need to call the police or a battered woman's hot line. I hope you will make the right decision and put that b@stard in his place because you don't deserve that. Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

First of all, I can understand that you were upset but you had no business slapping him. When a woman slaps a man, it makes him feel less of a man he his first reaction is to react on what just happened. When I was 18, I got into a bad fight with my boyfriend and I'm still with him now. He apologizes to me all the time for that fight because he hit me first and right off, I didn't hit him back. But I do feel like this, if you was woman enough to hit him, then you should have been woman enough to take that slap right back. My Mama raised me on this saying, "Don't ever give a lick unless you can take one". True enough a man has no business putting his hands on a woman but what gives us a women the right to hit a man? See it goes both ways. Don't ever hit a man unless you can stand the outcome. If he's man enough, he'll apologize but you should make the first move and apologize to him first because you gave the first slap. You're probably feeling the way you do because you can't believe what happened.

Answer 5

I am sure you have heard it before - violence doesn't solve anything, but even though you slapped him first, he should never have slapped you back, and worse, hard enough to make you bleed.

You need to sort things out with your husband - if it was so easy for him so slap you in an argument, it could happen again. I am not saying he is a "wife beater" but you need to sort out boundaries in your relationship over what is acceptable to both of you.

If you feel that you are so angry that you are going to slap him or he will slap you, step back from the arguement, say, we are not going to get anywhere here, lets take a breather and talk about it when we calm down.

Answer 6

I was raised that it is wrong to hit a woman but believe if a woman hits a man first she has the equal coming back to her. I'd say he stood up for himself and isn't going to put up with you hitting on him. Consider it a lesson learned and don't take it there again.
I'd apologize for escalating the fight to that place and tell him you want to respect each other more then that.
If he hit you unprovoked I'd be telling you to leave. However, I think his reaction was understandable. I don't think it sounds like he has a bad temper or he'd have done more then slap you back.
If this is a regular thing between you then you both need some counseling.
EDIT:
For those people telling you to call the police, that is an option. However, YOU will either BOTH go to jail since you both hit, or they could arrest you as the aggressor and not arrest him since he just defended himself. It depends on the domestic violence laws in your state but you would definitely be going to jail. Him? Maybe, maybe not.

Answer 7

It was wrong of you to slap him, I will admit that, but NO MAN should EVER lay a hand on a woman REGARDLESS of what they do.

You two need to get away from each other for the night, let things settle down, then sit down and talk about what went on tonight.

If he's never hit you before, I'm more then sure that it was a "heat of the moment" thing.

If you don't hold a grudge, you and him as well will feel remorseful for what happened and I'm sure you can work it out.

If it's a common thing, where he's hitting you, either get the hell out or go for marriage counselling.

I wish you two all the best.

Answer 8

OMG! Yes, most girls will slap their husband when they are in a fight..but a man will never hit them back! If he does, that means he will just do it over & over again when you guys get in a fight! Please get some help! I'm not telling you to leave him..(even though that would be it for me) but u need to talk to someone! Don't let it get worse..because it very well could. If you have children..He might also do the same w/ them. Has this just started happening or has he always been like that! Maybe if he just did it once...he just couldn't handle it & had to do it..but for him to make you even bleed is far too dangerous! I'm so sorry for your situation.

Answer 9

ya'll need your heads examined, they both have a problem and mark l or whatever ur wacked more than they r ,the hittin and beddin get old real quick,and lady he challenged u to a duel hittin on both sides of the face is in the bible as a challenge to a duel of his choice and he had ever right to hit u ,ur fine as long as it is u doing the hittin but i will tell u this once a woman raises her fist to a man and hits him she becomes a man when she strikes the first hit get help u put ur self in a mans postion

Answer 10

Thats called pain- its also called abuse,. I dont knwo what yo were fighting about, but that doesn justify what EITHER of yuou did. My fiancee slapped me one time, and I just shut my mouth and walked away, didnt talk to her or call until she did. Get some pro. medical attention, and get some counseling beofre that gets worse.

Answer 11

If this is actually a true question then I suggest you keep your hands to yourself. It is not ok for anyone to lay a hand on thier spouse. You slapped him first so his first reaction is going to be slapping back. You both need help.