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In my opinion, religion should be the last thing on someone's mind when they think about marriage. What is important are the human values. morals, and ethics that should always transcend religious affiliations: values of empathy, love, respect, tolerance, equality, fairness, compassion, freedom, etc.

But that's not how many "religious' people think. Although many world religions speak about tolerance, belief in one God, love, understanding between people, and the usual blablabla, this is only lip service as in practice, they tend to reject those who do not adhere to their views and will be the first to show religious, racial, ethnic, sexual, social intolerance. Not all religious people are like that, but sadly a vast majority.

2007-11-28 12:30:25 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Phil 6 · 0 0

Well it depends on the people involved and what their mutual spiritual view is. The hard part isn't you and your beloved - what happens with the children you may raise? Having the conversation about that first, I'd say is key.

This can be a success (my own datapoint is almost 20 years and going strong) the secret:
1. We recognized that no religion has the "corner on the right answer" hence we accepted each others' religion. This provided some initial conflict with our parents, but they got over it.
2. We more interested in shared values and spirituality versus some formal religion, though we each do practice our formal religion - albeit in our own way.
3. We decided we would raise the children predominately as one religion for religious training, but with an awareness, and a practice of the other religion too. As they got older we, as a family, explored other religions and beliefs.
4. We have a sense of humor. Many of our friends "don't get it" and when we show up at each others' religious ceremonies we often get raised eyebrows - though we've taken the time to talk the the religous leaders of the houses of worship we go to and they have been completely understanding and accepting.
5. Our belief is that love and understanding are the ultimate human 'religions' hence - if you treat each other, and those around you, with love and understanding -- everything else pretty much doesn't matter. (IMHO). In fact in my view "intermarraige and leading a virtuous life" is the surest way to overcome bigotry and bias. It's hard to be bigoted against someone who obviously loves and shows love to others.

good luck - love does conquer all. (but a sense of humor helps!)

2007-11-26 23:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by R R 3 · 1 0

There are many different Christian/Protestant religions, so if you are asking - can a Catholic marry a Protestant - I say, Yes. They share similar beliefs, yet not the same religious structure.

Can a devout Catholic marry a devout Jewish follower? Or perhaps Muslim, or Hindu? Or vice versa...? I think that is a harder road for the couple - because the two beliefs are separate, and it is only something that they individuals can decide for themselves, their family, and their religious leader if they choice to have one.

Sometimes it is a new path the couple will forge for themselves, sharing their love and their beliefs. It is unique and cannot be instructed.

2007-11-26 23:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by HoneyB 1 · 1 0

What GOD has joined together, no one can come between.
There is only one GOD, when you say religion, be careful. a lot of relions are man-made and have their own rules. A religion that uses the B I B L E as it's road map is the best .B I B LE is Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth. We all need those instructions. If two people have both taking their thoughts and every thing to a higher power, and if it's in GOD's will yes, marriage between people attending diff. organizations can marry as long as GOD is the head of their life and in complete control. Pray before intering into any relationship, ask GOD if this is who he wants you to be with, then wait, be patient -- HE will answer, if HE knows who you are.

2007-11-27 00:00:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

It depends upon the nature of their religions, how open minded they are, and whether they can agree on what to do if/when children are conceived. My mom is a fundamentalist Christian, my dad a Pre-Vatican II Catholic, their marriage did not last. On the other hand, my aunt (dad's sister) also grew up a devout Catholic, married a Jewish man, moved to Israel, had four great kids, and remains married 40+ years later.

So, yes it can work, it depends upon the people involved in the relationship.

2007-11-26 23:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by I_Walk_Point 3 · 1 0

Well, this is a tough question.
First, You need to see if there are any similarities between your religions. If there are too many differences, do not even bother because sooner or later, will be problems between you two.
Second, I suggest to seek counseling from your spiritual adviser. Pray about it and may God Bless your choice.

2007-11-26 23:50:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I'm Pagan, my husband is Agnostic, so... yes. The trick is that both partners have to respect the other's right to their beliefs, even if they don't share those beliefs. If a relationship is one huge conversion-fest, then no, it won't work.

2007-11-26 23:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 1 0

Why not. I mean, in every religion, worshippers look to the sky, right? Well, if God, Budda, Mohammad, etc... can all live in heaven together, might as well be able to live on earth together, right?

2007-11-26 23:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by candice b 2 · 1 0

Yes I do, but their has to be a lot of understanding in the relationship, but I think if you go to church with each other eventually

2007-11-26 23:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by I am women 6 · 1 0

NO... someone has to change and accept the others religion... or else it won't work.

Imagine your husband does the Hannukah... but you want a Christmas tree ... when you go to church.... where to take the kids? Get it?

2007-11-26 23:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by BitterSweet 6 · 0 1

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