my 17 year old daughter has found a young man who likes her for who she is, does not pressure her for sex, is respectful, wants to make her happy and she's freaking out and not sure how to handle it... what do i tell her? obviously i'm saying the wrong things cuz she hung up on me today at lunch.
yes, i told her she's not emotionally mature enough to handle a relationship... my bad.
suggestions?
2007-11-26 15:20:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How the hell do you know this guys intentions you are NOT your daughter??? I'm positive she knows him better than you do because he is romantically involved. What if he starts hitting her...will you blame her too? Seriously I can't believe you turned on your own child. IF HER GUT SAYS IT'S NO GOOD THEN IT IS NO GOOD FOR HER. I hope you don't approve of arranged marriages but it sounds like you might ms control freak.
2007-11-26 15:27:51 · answer #1 · answered by happygolucky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You told her she wasnt emotionally mature enough to handle a b/f-g/f relationship...
Is it TRUE though?
Obviously you thought it was.As far as teen sex, just remember guys can put on a good show in order to get what they want and they will bide their time if they KNOW they will reach their goal after a while., there are many welfare mothers and I would be chaperoning them until she is 18.Why 18?Because after that you cannot do much legally but right now you DO have some foot hold.
You need to find out why she is freaking out.Sounds like she has self esteem issues,big time, if he isnt pressuring her for sex and treats her with respect and likes her for who she is.
2007-11-26 23:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, your daughter has all the say in what she's going to do and what she isn't. If you like him, tell her. She may be freaking out because it's too soon for her too handle, and it's all happening so fast.
Just help her when she needs it, don't bother her all the time about him. And she will have to learn to mature through relationships. It will take some time..but it will work.
2007-11-26 23:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, stop saying, "my bad", you're not a teen ager. She was talking to her mother, trying to get an adult opinion, and instead got criticism. Please call her, apologize for your lapse, and tell her that all relationships are different, and that this one seems to be based on friendship, which, next to a mother/daughter relationship, is the strongest kind.
2007-11-26 23:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
y it possible to handle this case as u brief. she is only 17, more, u know very well about us (men) because i think u r seasoned. but pls....... pls........... adopt your culture & ethics for her with friendly. xxx
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People appear bright until you hear them speak.
2007-11-27 00:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by saqi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what would YOU do?
2007-11-26 23:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋