I love Christmas but he dose not?????

Question

I really love Christmas i really get into the whole thing but my boyfriend dose not we have been together for five years and are thinking about having our own family i am trying to teach him the what i think christmas is all about so our children know the same. i know its just they way his family brought him up and i dont want to change that but how can i make him sure that our kids will not be the same and to try and set a good example

Answer 1

I have the opposite. I am a woman who hates Christmas,. married to a man who loves it. For most women, its a lot of work. men just don't have the same responsibilites of making it a "Hallmark Moment" like we women do. Thats one reason,.. and 7 years ago I lost my 9 year old daughter and husband in a car accident,. so in truth, the holidays have never been the same for me since then. But what I think I hate the most is that its all about material things of what perfect gift to buy or what am I getting for christmas. I think it should be more of a reflective day of getting together with your family,. and counting the "real" gifts of memories, love, and blessings. Thats what Christmas is,. not the commercialism that starts now even before Thanksgiving. Maybe.. if we all got back to the basics of the holidays, I'd like it more. To get back to your problem though? Even though I DO hate Christmas.. because my husband loves it,. I do things for him because I love him. Not because I want to,, but because it makes him happy and he enjoys it. Its like a gift I give to him. My husband knows how I feel and appreciates the effort that much more because of it. I don't go crazy.. but I do enough to satisfy him. Thats what Christmas really is anyways.,, giving of yourself. Sharing love and peace. If your boyfriend loves you, he could do a small part of christmas just because you love it. It would be for you then, not for him. Like a gift. If you explain it to him that way.. make a compromise, you may get him to enjoy it more for you. He also may be worried about the gift thing as well. Guys aren't always too good at picking out presents for us, so he may be nervous that he can't live up to what your expectations may be, so he choses to just hate it because he feels under pressure. Could it be the whole going to everyones family thing?? Talk to him about it. see what it is about christmas that he hates and maybe you can elimanate something or compromise on something else, then he won't feel so negative about it, and you both could have a nice holiday and some happy memories.

Answer 2

I This could be a real problem if you guys decide to get married.... Christmas is such a special time of year for people who truly love everything about it.... this could be a very lonely time for you and kids if dad not on the same page... if he see that Christmas is important to you... he might try and change.. but if not you might be in for a cold Christmas... could be a problem...Ilove Christmas this would be a problem if my husband didn't like Christmas .. think about !!!

Answer 3

What IS Christmas about?
There's a lot of pagan origin to it, but that aside, isn't it SUPPOSED to be about HONORING the Birth of JESUS CHRIST?
How hypocritical is it to use THAT as a platform to promote Christmas when you are shacking up with a guy who has not married you, and you are wanting to have kids out of wedlock?
Better find ANOTHER platform to sell Christmas on because you are fixing to dig a big hole there hon.He will see RIGHT THROUGH that in a heart beat.

Answer 4

i wouldnt worry about it too much, my mum is the christmas natzi and my dad is a schrooge hee hee but they never fight and they love each other and have been married for 26 years. i wouldnt let it bother you too much, just ask him to at least be positive.

Answer 5

will you cant get him to commit to you. how could you possibly get him to commit to your kids.