We got engaged and he bought an investment property next door and rented it out to a family he knows. These people are heavy partiers and like to drink alot. Since they have moved in, it seems his priorities are way off. He hangs out there alot and drinks with them and is never home and hardly pays bills on time or misses a few months at a time. He also put a real heater in the garage next door so they can all party and drink and smoke in it!? yet, he doesn't do anything around HIS house anymore but is always next door. These people never pay rent on time and he doesn't charge them late fees. They also didn't pay the extra pet fees when they got pets. Other people have also noticed a huge change in him. We've gotten into many arguements over this and I finally confronted him about and told him I am worried about him and that he may be going down the wrong path drinking too much, etc.... He said 'It's you, you are the wrong path. I can't function around you.' What the heck does he mean?
2007-11-26 14:38:05 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How do I call the police on them? What would happen?
2007-11-26 14:48:33 · update #1
It means he wants to make poor, self destructive choices and he doesn't want you standing in his way. Please do not marry him, he doesn't sound like husband or father material. This is the real him, trust me.
2007-11-26 14:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by Jen70 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He means that his priorities have changed and he is more interested in partying and having fun than being a good husband. You need to move our and move on and find someone more considerate of you and more interested in a good future. You love the person you agreed to marry and now he is showing you who he really is. He has to chose between the partying and that life style or life with you and the only way you will make him decide is to move out and hope that he misses you enough to make the changes which would make this a successful marriage. Good Luck to you!
2007-11-26 22:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is laying all of the blame on u for his own actions. what u are seeing is the real him, and he may feel uncomfortable around u, because he is doing drugs, focusing on all the things in life that don't matter or make for a happy relationship. he is telling u that he is not happy being with u, that he feels u aren't the one for him. he is who he is his actions show it. best to cut your losses now, this man will never marry u, and in time he will find someone who likes the things he does and he will be gone. he is putting others before u, meaning these people are more important to him than u. u got to face the facts here or suffer the consequences. he was probably always this way but hid it well from u. but u can clearly see it now. if your not his priority get out now, don't marry a man like this, u deserve to be loved and cherished, and be someones priority in life, don't settle for a zero.
2007-11-26 22:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he really needs help and he's trying to put the blame on you when it's HIM!
Things may get way worse if something doesn't change now.
sometimes it takes a person hitting rock bottom before they can reach up for help, he needs help.
have you ever thought of calling the police anonymous? maybe that will help him realize the partying has to stop. in the least hopefully it will get him home that night.
I know it's hard, good luck and god bless!
2007-11-26 22:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by TM25 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋