How common (or rare) is a relationship like this?
2007-11-26 14:18:42 · 25 answers · asked by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
me and my bf are and so are my mum and dad.
the whole point of a relationship (if it's going to work) is that you are both best friends and lovers. That is the secret to a good relationship.
you should be able to tell each other everything and not have to wonder what the person is thinking as more oftne than not, you will already know!
It's the best feeling in the world when you find that kind of relationship and you never want to let go!
It's quite rare which is why so many marriages don't work these days. People have lost the true meaning of what a marriage is supposed to be.
2007-11-26 23:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I've been living it for almost 18 years now. We are the very best of friends, lovers and a family. It does not mean that we say only what the other person wants to hear, we are honest with each other. I value my friendship with my husband the most, because without it everything else would not mean much... We also do not like each other at all times, but we would not look for a replacement. We are a huge part of each other's identity, because we were lucky to personally grow in the same direction. That is something you would find impossible to achieve without a great friendship between two people. Unfortunately, I have not witnessed this kind of a relationship often. Therefore, I would call them a rarity. I also know just how lucky I am for having that in my own life.
2007-11-26 15:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems most took the crappy way out on this one with the husband/wife thing but I know what you mean.
Yes, I believe two people can be friends and lovers and never have it go to a relationship like a marriage. Of course it depends on the two with both having to put aside jealousies and that need to control. For that reason, I think it's rare. But even rarer yet because most guys just want to hit it and run (friend or not). If they are hanging around acting like a friend it's only because they think they can hit it again. I'll admit we are dogs but some of us manage to rise above our crotch oriented lifestyles and find out there is more to life than the next lay, sports and NASCAR.
Hope that helps...
2007-11-26 14:45:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mr 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I prefer my lover to be my best friend. So yep, a man and a woman can be best friends and lovers at the same time, but the hard part is keeping the friendship alive, so you remain lovers. Once the friendship goes downhill, usually the romantic part goes bad fast, in my past experience anyway.
2007-11-26 14:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by edith clarke 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your Lover should always be your best friend. That's how good marriages and Life Partnerships work.
I think it's extremely common early in relationships. Later on, it's hard to keep the Pizazz.
2007-11-26 14:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
My husband of 50 years has been my lover, best friend and soul mate.
He has always like to hang out with me.
Generally Friends just complicate your life and cause all type of problems.
You have to be completely devoted to each other and family.
I really don't know how common it is.
It may be consider rare, rather than common.
2007-11-26 20:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by DeeJay 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think I see this with the life I see when people is around me.I call that popularity so its better than a regular friend.Its a friend with benefits.I don't think I have lovers but I know people enough to have a great time and it feels as great as friends/lover.For my short term I mean that the people who know me for like at least for good amount of months will treat me with respect and honor me like they do with others.But for girls it depends when they have a connection with me to have lover/friend.
2007-11-27 05:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i did it for 15 years we knew everything about each other the thing is though if you stop being one you have to stop being the other so become friends then lovers than married then best friends that works
2007-11-26 14:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by eunique97 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It;s a little rare but i have known many that have it like that' with their other half,I hope when i find Mr right; he will my best friend' lover' and all the above.
2007-11-26 14:53:29 · answer #9 · answered by Cami lives 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
To love someone does not equate to them being your friend. Love is an emotional state, friendship is a rational choice. Love is unconditional, friendship is mutually beneficial.
You can love your friend and be friends with your love, but to have both the love of your life and best friend in one and the same person - I think - is rare.
2007-11-26 14:26:08 · answer #10 · answered by whuz007 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋