I've been married for 7 years, starting from my first born he always seems like don't want the family, when I born my second one, he got worse them 2003 during the sars, he had sms from his ex, then recenly I found out the sms form 2 ladies, asking him out? I have leave him now, but he sometimes desperately wants me and the kids back, but sometimes, he just being cool about it. He like to drink lots at night, and enjoy other people accompanion then me. But now he wants me back, what should I do?
2007-11-26 14:07:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when I fopund out about the 2 ladies sms him, the 1st one said she didn't know him wrong no, denying that ahe knows him, the second she said she her self has a fiance, but since he work shift duty, she can go out at bight to meet him just as good chatting friend. then when my husband ever visit me at night to my new home, she call desperately, said, "why you go to your wife's home, you don't want to be with me again?" When I try to call her, she's affraid to answer my call. And My husband said it's nothing!.Please give me advice....some where in my heart want to leave him, but some how, it's hard since I have 2 kids with him. Please help...
2007-11-26 14:15:12 · update #1
the only problem, why I have not completely be ready to go away forever is that 1 I'm my self don't have a stable career and he has, and the way he ask me back is to provide me with everything that I want, but before he never do that to me. you see I married him when he got nothing, till now he has money, what should I do?
2007-11-26 14:23:28 · update #2
Too long for me to go through this again tonight, so just go to my homepage, click onto husband issues, and read my answer to her. I would say the exact same thing to you.
2007-11-26 14:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is not healthy at all to stay married cuz you have 2 kids. You have to have respect for your self so you can teach and show your children. He has a drinking problem ... so if he wants you as bad as he says he does then he will work on that wont he? Actions speak louder then words so give him a time limit like 2 months for example, and see how much he accomplishes. These other women are not just friends so that all should have been done before he desperately acts to want you and the kids. Show him you mean what you say and you deserve more then he shows you he can give you. Love never hurts...not after a few years or ever for that matter.
2007-11-26 22:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have some couples counseling before you make a final decision. If he won't agree to that, then don't go back to him. the fact that he likes to do things with people other than you could mean that the two of you need to do more together, or it could mean that he is bored with the marriage, doesn't love you anymore, and wants to get back together to avoid the child support he will have to pay if you get a divorce.
I will give you a web site where you can click on divorce and go through some things to consider before deciding whether to give him another chance. All in all, from here it looks like the divorce would be the best thing to do but you have to decide if you still love him or trust him and make your own desision. I hope the web site helps!
2007-11-26 22:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him! Keeping him around you risk getting lots of diseases for one. I would further advise you to go to the most favorable state possible to file divorce and award child support. You'll have to check a bit but Washington State, Illinois and Connecticut are among better choices. Plus this should put some distance where he will fade from you and your childrens' lives.
2007-11-27 03:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by genghis1947 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the bum. He is no good for you, or for any woman. Leave him to his drink, and his "boy" Friends. Good riddance. Don't look back. Keep moving forward in the positive direction you are.
Good luck, God Bless.
2007-11-26 22:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by haditforgood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no if he cheated on u the no keep ur kids and go away from that basterd u r 2 good 4 him!
good luck
2007-11-26 22:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by jmfan93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say NO. Loudly if you must. Get the locks changed. Or move to the other side of town. But just say NO. And make sure you tell other people you say NO to him.
2007-11-26 22:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by BelieverinGod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know, too many bad marraiges continue "for the sake of the kids", when in reality, the kids are no better off living with parents in a really bad relationship than they are living with divorced parents
2007-11-26 22:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by karankawa25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money can't buy your happiness. If you are looking for an secure life, the only one you can dependend on is yourself, not your husband.
2007-11-27 00:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. he made his bed now let him lay in it you in time will be the better one not him this type will never change and in time will get worse on cheating on you . my opion. ?
2007-11-26 22:57:45 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋