this is almost comical. my amazing boyfriend is the world's worst christmas celebrator. honestly, we're both not religious and we don't really appreciate the commercial aspect of the holidays, but we do want to buy our close family some nice things. i personally want to really treat my mother since she has REALLY helped us out this year and she has had a rough time. my boyfriend's mom is awesome as well and i want to get her something great too. problem is, my boyfriend won't help me come up with anything. everything i suggest, he shoots down and he refuses to talk about it. i think he basically wants me to come up with something on my own, but he isn't helping mel i don't want to put my mom first, but i am not going to put her second either. should i just go out and buy his mom want i want to get her, or should i try to get him to do it?
is it common for guys to be into the holidays less? for the record, i hate the the shopping part!
2007-11-26 13:42:04 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Baba: i do play by my own rules, i would just rather he choose his mother' gift. it will mean more, IMO. they just started talking after a long feud. i guess i should just buy the gift.
2007-11-26 14:10:25 · update #1
I think you should tell him "last call for your input -- I'm buying your mom a gift and if you don't approve, then oh well." Keep the receipt and if he really hates it, let him exchange it for something else.
You could do what I do with my hubby. I e-mail him links to possible gifts, which makes it harder for him to dismiss.
2007-11-26 14:03:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
Well, I have been married to my man for almost 18 years now, and he had never been interested in Christmas or any other shopping for anyone outside of our household. I love the guy, so shopping is my thing. I simply make a list early on in a year, and start my Christmas shopping early ( sometime in September ). How I get my ideas: I pay attention to what people on my list say about themselves. People like to share little things like favorite activities, nice piece of clothing they would hope to get or a gadget they have been looking for for a while now etc. By the time I am ready to start my Christmas shopping, I know exactly what people on my list would enjoy the most. My mom loves quality clothing she can't afford. So I get that for her. My mother-in-law prefers quality cookware instead, so she will be getting that. I hope that was helpful in some way.
2007-11-26 22:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy your mother what you want. Buy his mother what you want. Don't tell him. Wrap both gifts. Keep the receipt . Don't argue, don't beg, and don't mention it again. He doesn't have to play if he doesn't want to, but he shouldn't be telling you how to play either.
Life gets easier when you write and play by your own rules. Don't expect him to play by yours. If he whines, stick a candy cane or a marshmallow in his mouth.
2007-11-26 22:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
This mean he trusts your opinion and really doesn't care that much. Just pick something out, tell him what you got her and tell him if he thinks she would like something else better he can get it and you will take what you got back.
Its easy and he wont feel like you are being over bearing.
2007-11-26 23:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋