I keep falling for any other man who gives me attention and is nice to me. Actually, I don't fall for them but I fantasize about them. Recently, I fell hard for a married man at work. Things are getting better with my husband, but why do I still have feelings for this other man? How do I move on?
2007-11-26 13:37:42 · 15 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Counseling probably would be a good thing, how old are you any way? If you are young it might be just an age thing but if you are older it likely speaks to some under the surface problem that you probably have. So likely this is merely the symptom of a greater problem that you have to work on. But if you aren't acting on them then at least you have that going for you, also you might try to avoid situations that make you feel that way as much as you can while you work on it.
2007-11-26 13:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by Heart of Stone 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing wrong with you lady. He may be nice.
Just because you are married does not mean you push this guy away. People fall for you not just because you are hot but for many many reasons, and if you give this guy a chance he may still be special to you without being a boyfriend/husband.
2007-11-28 21:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by cynic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's the attention from men that you crave that excites you. It's not that you choose to be obsessed with attention; we women like to be complimented and I can understand where you're going.
But, if your having marriage problems, that could be another reason why you're fantasizing about other men... and that means you should probably see a marriage counselor.
2007-11-26 21:46:06 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some serious issues going on in your marriage. Some how you have lost your attraction to your husband. There could be many reason why. Maybe you got married to soon, maybe something he has done, maybe something you are doing. Whatever it is you need to find out and get it corrected or this could get worse.
2007-11-26 22:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by Doc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You see the good side the nice side of him he is dress well and polite. This man isn't real,remember when you first went out with your husband and he was so nice so perfect well that's your man at work isn't it. He isn't what you think he is they never are so get your mind off him and look at what you have not at what you want.
2007-11-26 21:52:21 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal to have fantasies about other men, just as long as you don't act on them,I suggest you work on your marriage since you say things are better with your husband,why ruin a marriage ,just for a fantasy or a fling, why not fantasize about you and your husband? put some spice back in your marriage,remember what attracted you to him:)
2007-11-26 21:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by msalb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has alot to do with the attention u got or maybe didn't get as a child from dad. if your dad showered u with love and attention u are still expecting it from your husband, and if he isn't giving it to u u may feel this marriage isn't love. u have to make an effort to fight temptation, it comes to us every day. maybe u married before u were really ready.
2007-11-26 22:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're human duhh...I'm married I still check out other women..but as long as you don't flirt or cheat with other people besides your husband daydreaming is ok...its like one of those stupid what if questions....you are just wondering "what if" I wasn't married and dating whoever.....
2007-11-26 21:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The temptation will always be there, what matters is what you do with it. Focus on loving your husband and allowing him to love you. It will be harder to look at other guys when you are continuing to invest more in your marriage.
2007-11-26 21:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by hawkeye316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its normal..you are getting attention from another man instead of the same man day after day..its letting you know that you still are attractive
2007-11-26 21:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by USAF SSGT WIFEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋