Sick of people?

Question

I feel like people around me are trying to suck the life from me. Like some kind of emotional vampire. I thought most people are good but it seems i have some problems with a few in places i care to be. I dont feel like they are 'building me up' but like they are trying to take me down, use me as some kind of scapegoat and suck the goodness and inspiration out of me. Why do people try to use me as an outlet for their angst and aggravations? I just want to be happy and live my life.

Answer 1

heres the thing- when people annoy you, don't keep it in.
tell them flat out "jessica, you're annoying me" because in the end, its healthier for you, and for that person. (:

Answer 2

yeah that is a really strange phenomena to feel like your getting sucked off of by some kinda vampire. But in my opinion and experience, some of these people are depressed and insecure, with a desperation about them. And they need someone with strength to latch on to for their own strength to build back up. For me I go through times of depression and feeling lost and I feel like I become a psychic vampire, and I can feel myself build up by being around healthy people. When I notice this I retire to my own space until the depression passes, cause I remember When I've been sucked from, and I don't wanna continue that cycle. I'm not so sure a lot of these "vampires" are aware of what they're doing. Strange stuff for sure.

Answer 3

People can be demanding, maybe you need to set some boundaries... I have gotten to feel this way myself, when I've tried to spread myself too thinly. Compassion fatigue.

Answer 4

People have to make themselves feel better and it makes them feel even better to bring someone down who they are intimidated by or feel inferior to.

Answer 5

wow. i thought i was alone...i think the same way...but different. id like to talk to you more, and see our similarities and differences if thats ok...