do you know how sometimes you want what u don't have? like some people in the u.s. want to get tan, while people in the philippines want to get whiter....it's just an example, but anyways, i live the u.s. right now and i really want to go back home to the philippines, we do it every year, but i'm not satisfied, i love the philippines too much!!!! everyone's just sooo great, so, what do i do to get over this situation?
2007-11-26 13:30:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Philippines
there's a line in daughtry's song that goes, "be careful what you wish for 'cause you just might get it all... and then some you don't want..."
i know what you mean. when i was a child, i was the odd one out in the family because i have darker complexion compared to my cousins who were all mestizas. i really wished to be fairer then & i remembered putting whitening products just so i can be whiter. it was only later when i became a teen that i realized how lucky i am to have this color. my foreigner friends are especially envious of what they described as my "exotic" dark looks.
hmm... make the most of your stay there as each place has its own charm. the philippines is "home" to you but it does not hurt to be in another place & experience their culture & gain more friends.
YAP is "home" too to most filipinos who are based abroad. just be here in YAP and we can be your family. enjoy! :)
2007-11-26 16:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by kahlan nynaeve® 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I completely understand what you mean in that example you gave. People do want to get tan over here, but where I come from in West Africa, you see advertisements for bleaching cream! Interesting observation..."the grass is greener on the other side..."
Well, you say you want to go back to the Philippines. I wonder how much you want to. You say you go there every year. Do you stay there long enough to know of the conditions? I mean that if you stayed there for a year on end, would you find yourself missing the United States? Because I feel like I would, although I love my background. Still, if you don't, and you feel strongly about this, you could consider taking some time to go over there. Save your money, wait until you're old enough (if you're not already)... And while you're here, think of the things you like about this country (even if there are only a few). There has to be at least one, right?
2007-11-26 21:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ gohangirl708 ♥ 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is you and only you who can make that decision.
The "situation" you talk about is either of your own making, or brought upon you by family or circumstances. Like, if the whole family migrated and you were herded to the USA along with your furniture. Or you could have been so unhappy here then, so you decided to mend a broken heart that has now healed. Or maybe you wanted greater financial or professional success. And now that you have attained it, you realize the success is empty so you are longing for home. In the film "Mahogany", the theme was "Success is nothing without someone you love to share it with". How true, no?
All the scenarios I painted are just guesses. So that at the end of the day, only you can remedy that situation : you are there, but you left your heart in the Philippines.
I hope you decide well.
2007-11-26 21:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by boyplakwatsa.com 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I understand perfectly - I was born in Czechoslovakia, lived most of my life in the USA, and the past 10 years in Taiwan and now Philippines. While I can't stand the weather in New Jersey (shovel 2 feet of wet snow, and next day a driveway full of ice from snow plow), I do love the people and the weather of Philippines. But I do miss my homeland and try to visit the Czech republic for several months a year.
Your best bet is to come home every so often to get your internal battery recharged, and to enjoy your family while you can. (You know, the dollar is crashing - I get my retirement in $ and have lost 30% of my income) - so while you can, come back for a while and enjoy!
2007-11-26 22:03:12 · answer #4 · answered by luosechi 駱士基 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When I miss a place that isn't possible to visit often and when I do visit, it isn't enough, I try to look at the best of the situation. Cheesy as it sounds, try to find new things that are unique and just as amazing in the new place you live - there are things you can do in the US that you can't do or find anywhere else. Try new things, expand your hobbies and sports, make new friends.
For example, I live in Florida and I'm from NY. I really miss fall (especially during this time of the year) but I can find things to distract me. This Thanksgiving, it's true. I didn't have piles of leaves to jump in or apple cider doughnuts made from the local cider mills. Instead, I picked my own oranges every morning and made orange juice (from a tree in my friend's backyard!) and went swimming at night. Things that I couldn't do in NY I'm enjoying just as much. When I do get back, I'll enjoy and appreciate NY and its four seasons all the more, while at the same time remembering (fondly) the experiences I had in Florida.
2007-11-26 21:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by s16t18 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're in dreamland, when you're in the Philippines, it's a "vacation" everybody treats you like royalty. But just imagine that you live there permanently. Things, I bet will be different. Be grateful that you're in the US and have the opportunity to travel and have the money to do so. When you're in the Philippines it's fun and no worries like work, school, bills...when your back then reality sink back in.
2007-11-26 21:52:03 · answer #6 · answered by n10zguy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
we all get home sick , my wife did so we decided to move here after about 6 months she starting to say we better move back to USA anyway i feel the children will have better chance in America than in the Philippines
2007-11-27 06:40:40 · answer #7 · answered by Trasher 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go back, home is where your heart is.
2007-11-26 21:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by solay26 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you want stay here in our house.
2007-11-27 03:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by kawaii gwi yeo weo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋