Arguably, being cheating on is really one of the most hurtful, mind bubbling things to happen to a person. I think most would agree! And I've heard some pretty bad cheating stories. Some I still can't get over till this day. Can't comprehend why.
So I was wondering. How do you comfort someone who's been cheated on? Because a lot of the time, that (exception of children) person who has been cheated on. Is the most effected.
What do say to somebody? How does that one moment effect the rest of your life??
And please, DON'T make any smart-as* remarks. If that's the case, just move on please. . .
Thoughts? Experiences?
2007-11-26 13:20:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You cannot magically heal a wound. Cheating is like a dagger into the heart. It takes time to heal and their will be a scar. But it does not have to be a permanent one. If both parties are willing to forgive and live in complete loyalty and honesty then their is a good chance both will make a full recovery as they dedicate their lives to one another as in the case of my uncle and aunt.
If the victim has divorced or broken off the relationship with the cheater. Then give them time to heal. Tell them this kind of thing happens and that they are not alone. Then demand, not suggest or give advice but aggressively urge them to find love again. It is the only thing that will erase the cheater from their mind and soul. To love again. It is human nature to replace or repair that which is destroyed. So the sooner the better. They need to find another, good faithful, loyal partner! But give them a little time to clear their head and get the grieving process over. Because once you become lovers with someone it is a permanent mark kinda like a tattoo. The observer would think: Hey, their are a billion fish out there in the sea why can't you just get over him/her? It is because they made a lifelong memory with that lover. But finding a new love can be greater than the first. You might tell them that also.
Good luck,
Sincerely,
Otto
2007-11-26 13:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You open your heart and listen, then you give honest feedback. You are very well educated on this subject so I assume you would know what to say.
Listen and love, that's the only thing anyone could do. That is enough to move mountains. When the time comes and that person wants to hear your advice or opinion then it would be appropriate to say what you feel to be of benefit.
2007-11-27 00:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by Joyous Mommy ♥'s her ßoys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't comfort someone who's been cheated on, because no matter what you say to that person, when its all said and done, that person's mate cheated and that trust is lost for good. The only thing that would comfort that person long term is for him or her to leave that mate and seek greener pastures.
2007-11-26 21:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by Glenn Johnson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When this happened to someone I knew....I told her I was very sorry things didn't work at the way she wanted.
I told her to take time to cry and be depressed but then to be thankful that it ended when it did before she put anymore of her time and her heart into it.
There's always a reason for everything and to find out what else life has in store for you you sometimes have to go through some bad things.
2007-11-26 21:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I haven't had to comfort anyone in that situation but having been cheated on all I can say is be there for them, just listen, pffer a shoulder to cry on and support them...
2007-11-26 21:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their own problems, and if you are the friend of someone who has been cheated on, you can be a friend and let them know you're there for them...
Just give support and encouragement and be there when you can....
2007-11-26 21:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you don't have to say anything at all. Just being there for them, lend an ear and a shoulder to cry on is enough.
2007-11-26 21:26:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just realize that the person is going to need u more than u think for awhile, because they have no self worth, their ego is smashed. u comfort them by allowing them to voice their hurt, for as many times as they need to until they finally come to an understanding of what happened and why. u tell them that their self worth doesn't lie with the person who hurt them, that their self worth comes from god and what god thinks of them.
2007-11-26 21:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen and be a shoulder to cry on, try to encourage this person and let them know it's gonna be okay. cheers
2007-11-26 21:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by Versacetica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you listen more than you speak, you don't speak poorly of the jerk, and you just be there for the person.
you DON'T know how they are feeling, so don't go there.
listen, listen and listen some more.
2007-11-26 21:28:27 · answer #10 · answered by ProudM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋