cutting yourself..?

Question

my friend is cutting herself and i rlly want her to stop! i told her to go to the guidence office! i don't want to rat on her cuz she is my bff, but what else should i do? plz help!

Answer 1

Go to the guidance official yourself..........if you were a TRUE BFF you would - She's upset, she needs help, be her help, and no matter what, don't turn your back on her.

Answer 2

Most of the answerers don't understand cutting. Cutting doesn't mean that the person is slitting their wrists for suicide, it is cutting anywhere on the body as a way to physically manifest the pain that they feel psychologically.

I think that telling her guidance counselor is not always the best idea. Is their student counselors at your school? Maybe she doesn't feel comfortable speaking to an adult. The main thing is, she is obviously suffering and she needs to be treated. She could call the hotline for cutting: 1-800-DONT-CUT and you can visit www.selfinjury.com for more information.

You might want to call the hotline as well for information on how to deal with this matter. Another person to speak to would be a spiritual advisor: priest, minister, rabbi, monk, etc., who deals with counseling. They may be a great help to her.

Good luck...

Answer 3

I know what you're going through. My friend is cutting herself, she's thinking of suicide, she (claims) to be abused by her mom, though i don't believe her.
But what makes me sad the most is that she was so happy and funny. She'd never turn down a dare. Lol, she was always so cool and nice. She has this HUGE crush on me. Now she doesn't even act the same anymore.
And so she began cutting herself, she started i think because of our other friend.
So, if your friend is doing this because she's hanging out with another cutter, get your friend away from her/him. But don't tell anyone you're trying to get your friend away from that person, because rumors spread, and people stab your back all the time. It sucks.
Actually, i think i may've convinced her to stop. I cut myself ONCE Tuesday night. I let her know ahead of time that i was going to do it, she begged me not to. She said that it hurt, and she did it because of problems. I said we all have problems. So i cut ONCE! No, I'm NOT a cutter, i only did it to see if i could make her realize. I told her i'd do it more, which i know that will never happen. Then she was so disappointed (like i was when i realized when she started cutting) and she's like "You've got to stop." I said "I will if you will..." I haven't seen a cut on her since. So she may've stopped.
And, another friend went to the Guidance Office, and the guidance counselor didn't keep her promise, so when she and my friend were having a conversation, the counselor told her who told her about my friend cutting herself.
If you are going to tell the Guidance Office, make sure your counselor is trustworthy.
My friend hated the one that told. Which may've increased her thoughts of suicide. She cut more. But, that won't happen all the time. Maybe your friend will learn something.
So here are your options:
-Lure your friend away from the bad influence.
-Tell the (trustworthy) Guidance Counselor..NOT A PARENT, they just won't understand.
-Cut only once, maybe your friend will realize its bad. If she compliments it, STOP! Its doing no good apparently.
(By the way, have her promise to keep that to herself. Don't tell anyone else. People will think you have a problem, and report you. No joke! I'm living through this. All of this I'm telling you is true, and i'm living it now!)
-You could state the facts. Such as (if you know a nurse/doctor personally, if you don't, say you do) tell your friend they taught you every single main artery and vain in the wrist/arm. And its so easy to accidently cut one, and die within a few minutes. That'll scare her.
-After that, guilt her. If she wants to commit suicide, or after you stated the facts, say something like "All your friends love you. Do you want us to go without a good friend?" Or think of something along those lines...
Sorry, this is all i got. One of those are bound to work.
I swear to you, i've tried all (except for telling counselor, and lure her away, which i am going to try) and i think she may've stopped cutting. Good Luck!!

Teens have so much stress these days. Look up a teen hot line or somthing, talk to them or something (best a pay phone to stay anonymous) or have your friend talk to them.

Good Luck!!
T.M.
Please

Answer 4

Be there for her. Make sure she uses clean blades and cleans her cuts. Listen to her if she needs listening to. Help her see that she needs help. But don't go to the school guidance counselor and "rat her out" unless you are seriously concerned for her safety. Schools have to tell parents about that kind of stuff and the stress of her parents knowing and being possibly mad at you might drive her to cut more.

Answer 5

not everyone that cuts is attempting suicide, if shes cutting for attention than just ignore it (once people stop paying attention to it she'll stop). If she's cutting as a way to cope then be there for her as a friend, but don't pressure her to stop cutting because then she will not talk to you, let her know that you know she will stop when she's ready. Show her how much you care about reading up on the subject before you talk to her.

Answer 6

Tell her that cutting herself is only a permanent solution to a temporary problem...and the scars will only REMIND her of what she cut herself for in the first place.

Answer 7

I know it is going to be hard but you have to tell someone. If she is you friend you will care about her enough that you will over come your fear and tell someone. She may not listen to you but to her teacher, counselor, printable, parents. If she hears it from more than one person then she might stop or get help from a therapist. if that is not good enough then you can tell the person you tell not to use your name and that you want to remain anonymous.

Answer 8

tell her to snap a rubberband on her wrists or wherever she cuts instead. since just telling her to stop isn't helping, tell her theres a better way to get the pain sensation. although one would hope to not have to do any slef affliction methods, maybe it could help her not get a serious infection or bleed to death.
and try to talk to her. tell her you can get an infection and lose a limb. it's the truth, and maybe it'll scare her!

Answer 9

This site has a lot of useful links:

http://christiananswers.net/q-eden/cutting.html

Also, consider giving her this hotline number...

Self Harm Hotline

1-800-DONTCUT

Help for "cutters"

Answer 10

...Uhm, tell her "Down the road not across the street" If she cuts herself and she isnt dead, she wanted attention. Give it to her, tell her parents or the school. She needs to stop being a drama queen.
-Ryko