Ex and I broke up about a month ago (both 25) because he felt we were getting too serious. We did not talk until he called me out of the blue the other day and asked me if I was dating anyone, told me he missed me and wanted to start seeing me again, etc. I had heard he was dating someone, so I asked him about it. He said no. He's been calling me every day since then.
I don't have a myspace, he does, and I looked on his and saw that there is a girl who calls him babe, talks about what they're doing that nite, etc. I asked him about it and he said they are nowhere even close to being official but they do hang out. Apparently she was out of town for awhile and just got back on saturday; he has not called me since she's been back.
I am so mad at myself for believing he wanted to get back to me even though he has obviously chosen her. He said they are not at all exclusive; do I have a right to be mad about this? If he calls, should I ignore him or give him another chance to date?
2007-11-26 12:59:07 · 31 answers · asked by Leah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just think it was inappropriate for him to call me and tell me how much he is missing me when he's involved with someone else.
Sorry, I thought I put this in the dating section.
2007-11-26 13:00:36 · update #1
We are not sleeping together and he knows I won't unless we are "together."
2007-11-26 13:04:46 · update #2
He doesn't have a commitment with you, he doesn't have a commitment with her, what's the problem? He's done nothing wrong.
2007-11-26 13:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
It sounds like, if your not sleeping together yet, then he needed someone to sleep with.. so he found someone that would sleep with him. (You are doing the right thing by not sleeping with him). This is a real test for couples when they are not been physical together yet. Unfortunately, the male species get urges and have no control over them (not all men) and then it's too late. Someone gets hurt, usually the female. If he calls you, I would tell him 'right now I need some space and I will call you back when I am ready to talk.' You keep the upper hand. You might not want to get back with him when you have had a little space to think of how weak he is, because it will happen again. Next.. there is more than one fish in the sea.
2007-11-26 13:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing that you should do is for one stop taking his calls. If you know that there is another woman in the picture be it a femal friend or not you should still get out while you can. I mean alot of guys say even being bf and gf isn't serious enough to them and they will find other women to see on the side because in their minds they aren't in love with the chick they are with they are just using her like he would no doubt use you again if you let him. And indeed you are right it is very wrong his thinking. But you can't control what he thinks. You can however control how you respond and react when he gets into contact with you. I think it would indeed be way better if you blocked his calls and avoided all contact with him altogether. I mean if a dude can't commit to being serious with you or anyone else then he is not worth your time or anyone elses.
2007-11-26 13:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why so many girls think that men get to call all the shots, and decide the direction a relationship should take.
He decided you were too serious....
He decided he didn't want to see you...
He decided he missed you
He decided to call you again...
He decided to date someone else at the same time...
He decided to tell you a cock-and-bull story about the other girl.
He decided you're a doormat and will go along with anything he wants!
Now here you are asking us what to do.
I am surprised you aren't asking him if you should ignore him or give him another chance...he has made every other decision for you, why not this one?
2007-11-26 13:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Accept that he is a loser and then resolve that you will not be victimized again. He was using you and leading you on. You should cut you losses and move on. Don't be so trusting next time, though. By the time a guy is 25 ,he is going to have been around the block a few times. If he calls again, hang up!!!
2007-11-26 13:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should ignore him. He tried to use you as a fill-in while his girlfriend was not available. Plus it is odd that he is already dating someone else if you guys just broke up a month ago. He may have been seeing her while the two of you were dating.
2007-11-26 13:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by ds 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you certainly do have a right to be very angry at him. How dare he get your feelings all stirred up again just to find out he was just lonely because she was gone. If i were you i would tell the girl what he did,she has a right to know what she is getting herself into. It's up to her weather or not she believes you at least you warned her and besides it will make you feel better about what he did. Men like him shouldn't get away with playing around with other peoples feelings.
2007-11-26 13:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon... you broke up for reasons, and he is an EX for reasons, also... keep it that way and move on... i'm sure it's painful but you are prolonging the agony by having anything to do with this guy....
I hope that as time goes by, you will see the bad things about him and avoid people who have those same traits in the future.
Life is about lessons sometimes... take care
2007-11-26 13:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore his calls. You do not need a man like that in your life. He's scum and has no respect for women or himself for that matter. You could always contact the other woman and see what's going on. I had this happen to me once. I was with a guy who I thought was legit and then some woman called me asking if I had slept with her boyfriend. Strange enough, she was very nice and calm about the entire situation. Needless to say, she kicked him to the curb that day and I ignored his calls.
2007-11-26 13:06:50 · answer #9 · answered by jefa 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He wasn't missing you he was missing her and looking for a stand in until she got back. See it for what it truly is he is not only a lier but a cheat. You fell for it once don't fall for it again. People show us who they really are it's up to us to listen. If we choose to ignore what they are doing and saying then we can't blame them. He let you know what he is a lier and a cheat. Move on
2007-11-26 13:23:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Clearly he is just using you. I think you should ignore him and move on... look for someone who will at least respect you, if not love you. Giving him another chance is a waste of time... you already know he is two-timing the other girl, so why wouldn't he do it to you?
2007-11-26 13:04:20 · answer #11 · answered by Chris 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋