Does my husband, who pays a high child support, have the right to not give money to his ex-wife for a dental procedure on their son?
His ex claims to have done this procedure but the health insurance did not cover it. the son corroborates this story but we dont believe her she is usually trying to get more money on top of the child support. so can he refuse to pay it unless she can prove it?
Has anybody have experienced a situation like this before? what did you do?
2007-11-26 12:57:17 · 18 answers · asked by tatys 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Insurance companies usually will not insure dental work under health insurance so her story is believable. Your husband has the right to refuse all other payments or loans not specified in the custody agreement. You should say you and your husband will always do your best to live up to the high amount determined by the courts as his fair share and also buy gifts for his birthday and Christmas too. Then add that if that is not enough money, you guys would love to reverse the custody and gladly accept that amount of child support from her as her full share of child support, without ever asking for another dime.
2007-11-26 13:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by Frank 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The court orders usually will include a clause requiring the parents to split any health care costs not covered by insurance.
That being said, your husband is completely within his rights to demand a copy of the bill, and to talk to the provider first, to make sure that the insurance did not already pay all or part of the bill.
If the ex is claiming she already paid the bill, request a copy of the cancelled check or credit card receipt.
If there is a legitimate outstanding bill, I would check with the insurance company first, to make sure the claim has been submitted and denied, then your husband should pay his half directly to the dentist.
I agree that you should be cautious about just paying extra money to the ex without proof, but if the charge is legitimate, man up and pay his part of the bill!
2007-11-26 15:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by rlb1961 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does the court order say? Is he to provide dental care also. Insurance companies tells a patient what is/is not covered. The ex sounds like she may be trying to get over on your husband. Wouldn't the dental bill be in her name, if so she is stuck owing for the procedure.
2007-11-26 13:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by mudslide_23511 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, if the parents have to divide unpaid health and dental bills, the divorce decree will state what percentage each parent pays after insurance pays their portion.
So, if this is the arrangement your husband has, he NEEDS TO SEE A PHYSICAL BILL before he is obligated to pay anything... and your husband also needs to pay the doctor directly, NOT give the ex money... she can say she never received a dime.
Divorce sucks, doesn't it?
2007-11-26 13:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most divorce decrees will spell out exactly what can and can't be done. So yes, you can make her prove it. For example, if a procedure is going to cost more than a certain amount out of pocket and he is going to be responsible for it, he will have to be let known before hand of what is going on so he can approve, so you do have the law on your hand. On the other hand, if his son needed this procedure done and he has the $ to pay for it and doesn't want to, it doesn't say much about what kind of guy this is.
2007-11-26 13:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by Rick T 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why are you all in his business with HIS kids and HIS ex wife business. you dont have anything to say about this they were here before you and they are non of your business. your husband is probably suppose to carry health insurance on the kids as long as they are in school, so since the insurance didnt cover it and the child needed the procedure than he is suppose to pay at least half. but he can go to the next doctor appt and ask questions and see for himself without you just the parents need to be handling this. but yes your husband owe at least half of the bill. he should not stir up anything because since His insurance didnt pay and he is suppose to carry health insurance he could be made to pay the whole thing. so encourage him to be a man and keep the focus on the kids and stop trying to spend the child support the way he see fit. just keep on paying. GodBless
2007-11-26 13:12:30 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You cant deny his child a 'medical' procedure out of pettiness.
Yes it is your husbands responsibilty to ensure that his children are taken care of.
If you and your husband do not 'believe' the ex. Then you should take him to a dentist yourself for a second opinion, and a cost evaluation. Or call the dentist and the medical insurance company yourself and get the 'facts'!
2007-11-26 13:17:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask for proof like the dental bill or the insurance copy of the bill that wasn't paid for and then you'll know if she's lying.
2007-11-26 13:05:05 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tough situation! Isn't there something in the divorce settlement or with child support agency regarding insurance? Something should be stated somewhere. I have 2 children (my custody) and it's listed on our child support papers who is responsible for medical needs. Check that out first.
2007-11-26 13:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by Simply Me 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This should have been agreed to by both parties prior to the procedure. I don't think he is obligated unless it was an emergency.
2007-11-26 13:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋