she's my closest friend and is having a baby girl just as I write this. It is her first child and she is also the first of my friends to have a baby, so... I'm really in need of some good suggestions as to what to get her as a gift. I won't be able to see her for a few weeks so I wanted to send her something until then. I don't want tp send flowers becasue I think they're so impersonal and just too easy. I want to to do something to let her know how happy and proud I am of her. Should I include her husband too? Is that a stupid question? I sometimes feel like the men kind of lose out on the "Congratulations". I know she's the one who really deserves the gift for going through the labor. I would love to hear some suggestions. Thanks!
2007-11-26 12:51:49 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Here are some ideas:
If you are sending something to the hospital, a baby-themed mug with flowers is really nice. I know you said no flowers, but when I was in the hosp. having my son I got one and it really brightened up the room and didn't take up too much space, plus every time I looked at it it reminded me that person had thought of me.
Imagine if no one sent flowers!
OR - find a local restaurant she likes that delivers and send her a meal to the hospital. Hospital food stinks, and after the baby you're usually STARVING, and they usually don't give you frequent enough meals.
OR - send a care package of her favorite foods (nutritious and easy to prepare) to the house. The first two weeks are really hard in terms of sleeping and eating.
Yes, include her husband - he will be exhausted too, and starving too....
Then send something nice to the house like a really adorable outfit - buy 3-6 months unless the baby is under 7 pounds - they grow out of the 0-3 stuff so fast.
When you go to visit, the best gift would be to give her a homemade coupon for "1 day of housework" or such: do the laundry, dishes, grocery shopping etc. Everyone wants to hold the baby or babysit when what you really need is help around the house so you can sleep or take a shower!
2007-11-26 13:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by JC 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, yes, the husband helped make the baby, too! Always recognize both parents if they are both in the picture.
You could send a gift for the baby, a gift for baby and one for mom, or you could send a nice "couple" gift for the proud parents to enjoy when they get a breather. Now is a great time to find these types of gifts because of the holiday season and all of the deals. Another gift you can give is time. Get some movie gift certificates or a restaurant certificate and make a certificate with "free babysitting" for them. Now THAT is a great thing after a few weeks with the new baby... time together, even just two hours!
2007-11-26 20:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by amoebastar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only got one bouquet when I had my son. When my sister and brother were born, our living room was filled with flowers and balloons! Dad went through labor too-in his own way. Its harder then people think for men to see their wives in so much pain, and knowing they can't do anything. So yes, I would say include dad, or get him a little something seperately. The best thing anyone got me was a break! After waiting and waiting for baby, its hard to believe how badly a new mother really wants to just be alone. If you have the money, I would say a little massage or something. If not, an IOU for babysitting and a movie ticket. But I would say, definately get some flowers, and a blank card that you fill out, letting her know how happy you are for her, and how proud you are. Also, send her a disposable camera with a note, that you expect it to be full of pictures of baby and the new family. It will really let her know how excited you are!
2007-11-26 21:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by answermesweetly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing many people do not think of is giving mom a day at the spa or a massage package. I mean lets think of all the hard work shes doin and has ahead of her. She may not be able to use it for a few weeks but will so love it when she is able.
And I am sure you could send something of the same thing to hubby. You dont HAVE to include him but I agree that dads sometimes lose out in all the ahhhing over baby and feeling sorry for mom what she has been thru.
2007-11-26 20:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by froggishlycute 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you get a certificate to a nice resturant in the area so they can have a wife/husband night out? That is always a good thing.
New moms can always use pampering type things as once that baby comes out, there is almost NO time for the pampering. So any nice bath set, massage cusion (they could both use that) or other pampering item would no doubt be loved.
2007-11-26 20:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by ShellyLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you must be such a sweet friend xoxo
when i gave birth, everyone gave my baby presents, but not me, so speaking from experience try and get her something nice, like some nice beauty products or something. something to make her feel pretty, coz she'll probably be feeling pretty yuck for the next few days! LOL. also, definitely include the husband as well i think, thats such a good point, dads do get left out a bit.
congratulations to your friend, she's so blessed to have you in her life.
2007-11-26 20:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she'd probably love something for the baby. A cute little dress or toy, a gift certificate to Babies 'R Us? Maybe if she gave up something during pregnancy, like drinking, you could buy her a bottle of her favourite wine? But I'm sure something for the baby would be just as nice.
2007-11-26 20:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by Brittany Jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get a gift certificate for a restaurant that does takeout/delivery, or a certificate for a cleaning service!
I got a lot of gift certificates for restaurants for a "date night" for my husband and myself after our first child was born. Unless they come attached to a babysitting certificate, they're not of much use!
What a new mom can generally use is help with the practical stuff so she can recover and bond with her new baby!
2007-11-26 21:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by DoulaKaren 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same exact situation. I think sending her a card with a personal note inside will really let her know how much you love her and are proud of her, and will tie her over till you can see her. Maybe if you attached that to a teddy bear--like a build a bear......
2007-11-26 21:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some baby toys from Babies R Us for the baby. Then get your friend a bunch of balloons saying Congratulations! And maybe get her a cake as well with writing saying: "Congratulations! You're a Mother!" or something like that...
What to get the father depends on his interests.
Maybe get him tickets to the next sports game.
Or simply get him a nice tie or watch!
Hope I helped!
2007-11-26 20:59:25 · answer #10 · answered by Here I come I am cinnamon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋