get married???? i constantly see people on here complaining about how marriage is boring and they want the freedom to sleep around. didnt they think about this before they got married? i mean we all know marriage requires sleeping with that one person. i mean if your spouse completely cuts you off from sex then maybe i can understand.(its still wrong..just more understandable). but seriously, why do people who know monogamy isnt their cup o' tea bother getting married??? why dont they still single or find someone to marry who agrees with open marriage???
2007-11-26 12:44:26 · 15 answers · asked by Heather 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree. People who are too imature and unprepared for a monogamous relationship should not marry..NOR should potential spouses try to push such a person into marriage knowing it won't work.
2007-11-26 13:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by BelieverinGod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think part of it is due to our society's fairy tale vision of marriage. People are essentially told that once you get married, your spouse is going to fill every need you have and you won't have any interest in any other people ever again. So people go into marriage - for reasons good or bad -thinking that acceptance of monogamy is something that's just going to happen, rather than something they may have to work at. And when they find it's not that easy, some just fall to cheating or griping. People who find themselves in this situation but still want to make their marriages work either discuss healthy solutions with their spouses, figure out to confront the problem themselves in ways that don't violate the marriage, or just accept that temptation is part of life and can be overcome.
2007-11-26 12:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by Demon 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi heather, hope U still remember me! Anyways, the best answer to your question, is these or some of these people have an extremely super high sex drive, they are always "HOT" and "HORNY" for intense sexual, pure nuclear fire pleasure. These people want more and more sexual pleasure from others. Something new, something different, a total new experience, a new taste, a new smell, so on and so on. They want variety in their marriage relationship. And U know what Heather? How do you think the kiddos of these parents will grow up to be??? That sees their own parents into this open marriage deal! From generation to generation of total filty, super nasty open marriages. Adultery, incest, fornication, swapping, swinging and sharing each other. We live in a total "f" up society now days. haha
2007-11-26 14:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by pain_of_unhappiness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder the same thing. I married my husband for a reason...cause I want to be with him and only him hopefully for the rest of our lives. Monogamy is definately a good thing! I don't want to get any STD's or another woman showing up at my door saying she's pregnant with my husband's baby or everyone around town hee hee'n behind my back cause they know my husband is cheating. There's so much more to lose when one goes outside their marriage. Not for me! And hopefully NEVER for my husband. So far so good...I distrusted him after 4yrs and made him take a fidelity polygraph test...he passed. Thank God!
2007-11-26 12:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by Simply Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they think marriage is romantic and they have that fantasy that it will last forever. I know someone who claims, " Well I wont cheat once I get married." She has cheated on her boyfriend for years with multiple guys but swears once married she would never do this. I'm not so sure that marriage changes a person's character. I agree though, they need to not go into a relationship with a person who wants loyalty because if they can't give it its painful for the poor devestated partner who gets cheated on.
2007-11-26 12:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by Brittney 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You kind of hit the nail on the head...I used to be (and still am trying to be) all for monogamy. However, once you are TOTALLY CUT OFF FROM ANY FORM OF SEX FOREVER, that changes things A LOT...especially when you find others who are in the same boat. It sucks...very difficult situation.
2007-11-26 12:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by irish_jimmy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD, THANK YOU!!!! I was just sitting here contemplating that EXACT thing. Since my divorce I have been BOMBARDED with married/attached men trying to get me to sleep with them. I DON'T UNDERSTAND!!!!! What the hell happened to people during the time I was married? Or is it just easier to know what people are doing now that the internet is so prevalent? Sorry - I took your question to ask my own...
2007-11-26 13:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by theAfternooner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, after being with my girlfreind for over 6 years, she thretehend to dump me if we didn't get married... so I didn't want to lose my only source of Pu$$y, so I said yeah, I'll get engaged, it will only cost me a few gran and buy me some time....
next thing you know, she's treating me like the man, and doing all these tricks in the sack, a year passes sooo fast and before I know it like 5 hours later.... and it was over! I was married at like 27... if I live till 85 that like, I'm stuck with her for another 60 years!!!! man I didn't do the math beforehand... and yeah, I got the wool pulled over my eyes... so I live my life the only way I know how.
2007-11-26 13:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by Latin G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the "hate monogamy" people hate monogamy for different reasons. religion, culture, economic, i don't know what else but. sarah, the wife of abraham was not opposed to it. he allowed abraham to have hagar and then keturah and i think many others. and although they had problems, monogamy doesn't guarantee a problem less relationship either.
2007-11-26 16:46:13 · answer #9 · answered by dani l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure would cut down on the divorce rate if those that know that they can't keep it in their pants wouldn't marry in the first place...
2007-11-26 12:49:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋