my parents have a aranged marrige for me but i really love this guy i know my mom loves him but my father wants me to marry the other dude is in our herritige but i cant go threw it someone tell me what i should do
2007-11-26 12:25:34 · 15 answers · asked by birdy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marry who YOU want to marry. You are the one that will live with this person....not your father.
2007-11-26 12:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by guatemama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you,I could not even imagine how you must feel about marring a man you don't love. Sense most of us don't have to worry about being married off it's hard to give you the right advise without offending you or your customs. Don't the guy you are suppose to marry object to be marrying someone he doesn't love,does he feel the same as you.?
I wouldn't do it i would run away with the man i love and get married and live happy ever after. Look at it this way you will be miserable with the guy you don't love so you might as well be miserable with the one you do love.
2007-11-26 20:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not go through with it. You will have a miserable life. Your dad does not have to live and sleep with this man. Why does he think he can choose a suitable man for you? Marry the man that you love. No one has to live your life and only you know what will make you happy. It is your life and this decision should be yours to make.
2007-11-26 20:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should marry who you want to after all marriage is supposed to be for life and no one wants to spend it with someone you only feel half feelings for. You need to be fully in love with the guy to marry him or you'll just be miserable and end up divorcing later.
2007-11-26 20:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by CrazyH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry the one you love, don't let others decide for your future. I made that mistake, and got married cause i had to, and now we are soooooooo un happy, and he cheated on me, and im looking somewhere else, (which i already found) and we were together for 6 years, and no, it doesn't work when somebody gets married for the wrong reason.
Believe me!! experience.
2007-11-26 20:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by Lavender 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really discuss it with you father directly. Let him know that you really would not be happy with the guy he's picked for you. Maybe he'll consider you choosing who you want to marry because he wants YOU to be happy.
2007-11-26 20:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon,
Here's the real question.......who's gonna live the rest of their life with guy, YOU or your dad?
Go with your heart, and marry the guy you love, your parents will come around in time, if not your in-laws will love you enough for both of them.
Good Luck to you both, and happy marrage...........Tom
2007-11-26 20:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by Tomb391 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we are living in an age where you can choose who you want to marry. Plus you can just date as well. Marriage should not be rushed into.
2007-11-26 20:42:03 · answer #8 · answered by SiCnGaged 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the guy you want to marry's family shares your family's culture, you're probably in for a long miserable time, and in some cultures, even danger, but if his family is from another culture, you may have to decide if perhaps losing your family and making his family yours would be something you would consider
2007-11-26 21:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by karankawa25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is in you. You do what you need to do. If you father loves you, he will eventually get over it. Old habits are not easy to break.
2007-11-26 20:29:27 · answer #10 · answered by rukidden99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋