this was the second time.
after he apologized, he treated me so well.
what should i do?
2007-11-26 12:20:37 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I always believe in a second chance, but if it is the second time, most likely he will cheat again...
In my opinion, I would not take him back. You deserve to have someone who is going to respect you and love and be with only you.. don't settle for anything less, then what you deserve. Life is too short to waist on someone who can't be faithful to you....
Good Luck and God Bless!
2007-11-26 12:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by Torres 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think you should be a bit more cautious this time and consider the fact that your husband may very well cheat again.
He has completely shattered your trust and now you'll always wonder if he is cheating again.
The only solution I see is to have him seek help so that he isn't continuing this behavior. While he's getting counseling, you should as well to help sort out your feelings so that you'll be better prepared to make a decision about the future of your relationship.
I am sure you are torn between leaving or giving him another chance. Keep in mind that you don't owe him anything and the length of time you have been with him should have nothing to do with your decision. You deserve better and if he's done it twice, you have every reason to consider leaving him.
Good Luck
2007-11-26 20:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER. If it were the first time and you could live with it I would tell you sure. I would not do it myself. Since it is the second time (you sure there were not others that you did not catch him with?) I would say dump him and don't look back. If you continue to take it he will continue to do it. He will treat you well until you forgive and then he will sleep with someone else until you catch him again. It will be a vicious cycle. Stop it while you can.
2007-11-26 20:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I am not a believer in cheating, the only person who can answer if you should give him a third chance is YOU. If you want to keep giving him the chance to cheat on you, then that certainly is your right. Remember, people only treat us how we allow them to.
Good luck, and don't catch anything from him.
2007-11-26 20:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave. im sorry but if this is the second time he's done this then he is never gonna change. either accept the fact that he is always gonna cheat on you or leave. i'd leave because to me the promise of fidelity is the biggest promise my husband has made to me and if he can break a promise that huge then that just means he doesnt love me as much as i need him too.
2007-11-26 20:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling. Dang! What is wrong with this man? If you don't find out what his problem is, you won't ever be able to get true lasting resolution. He'll keep on cheating again and again. I believe in marriage so I have to say, work at it with all you have. That way if it doesn't work, hey it's on him.
2007-11-26 21:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by ds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a second time, everyone deserves a second chance, but not someone who consciously makes a choice, and cheating is a conscious choice that requires thought and choice. how long will he treat u well, until the next time he sees someone who catches his eye.
2007-11-26 21:48:33 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times are you willing to forgive him for this? A person will only treat you as bad as you let them!
2007-11-26 20:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Decide if him sharing your goodies is something you can live with, consider what do you stand to lose by his philandering. What is the part of the marriage that keeps you in place?
2007-11-26 20:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by HotDockett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to forgive him when he gives you a STD? Or just wait until he gets some ho knocked up? Get out now.
2007-11-26 20:42:16 · answer #10 · answered by carmey1173 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋