hes married,i left him & im dating someone else now,who i think is okay,im still in love with married guy,he makes it very hard 4 me to leave cause he dont want me to leave him.i find it so hard mostly cause everytime i ask him y he doesnt want me to leave he says cause he cares,i ask if he sees himself living with me,he says yes he.he says he has a plans he thinks i should wait ,things take time. he says he avoids telling me things cause he doesnt want to tell me anything i want to hear,he says hes doing something & doesnt want it messy.when i say i want to leave cause he goes home to her. he says he knows just give it time. i ask him to agree that we wont c each other he says no, i tell him to tell the truth that he wont leave his wife he says no cause he could tell me anything, then all he ever says is stop worrying,i love him, im not sure if i should see where this could go,my heart says yes,my mind is confused cause i hear advice from people,what do u think go with heartor mind
2007-11-26
12:13:37
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➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him alone
2007-11-26 12:29:54
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answer #1
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answered by DesignDiva1 5
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Jeremiah 17:9 “The heart is more deceitful than all else
And is desperately sick; Who can understand it?"
Then Jeremiah 17:10 “I, the LORD, search the heart,
I test the mind, Even to give to each man according to his ways, According to the results of his deeds.
Basically you should trust your mind. The guy you think you are in love with is a creep. The way he says he feels for you is probably the same way he said he feels to his wife when he first met her. If you go with him, you will one day be the wife who gets cheated on because he wanted someone new.
The guy took his vows with his wife. These are one of the most important vows you ever take in your life. If he is that much of a creep that he cant keep those, Im SURE he is lying to you all the time about leaving his wife and how much he loves you.
My advice is get rid of the guy, and then go tell his wife the truth about your relationship if that is something you hope someone would tell you one day if your husband was cheating on you.
2007-11-26 12:26:55
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answer #2
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answered by Peilthetraveler 5
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If a man REALLY wants to be with you .... NOTHING can keep him away .... And if a man DOES NOT want to be with
you; then NOTHING can make him stay!!!
And then ... if a MARRIED MAN that YOU LOVE ... wants to
have it BOTH ways .... He will tell you that he loves YOU and
ask you to WAIT.
Divorce is VERY easy .... If he wanted to leave his wife and
marry you ... It would be DONE! I agree with everyone else
that says he is using you ... And of course he is NOT going to
tell you THAT to your face! And think about this .... If he is
lying to the woman that he has exchanged vows with ... WHAT
makes you think he would NOT lie and cheat on YOU!
If he were serious and honorable .... he would tell you exactly
when his divorce papers were filed and he would show you
a copy!!!
The ONLY reason why you are confused is because the TRUTH is right in front of your face .... this guy is stringing you
along .... but you just don't want to accept it!
I can understand that you love this guy ..... but do you have
any self-respect. Just because you love him .... does NOT
mean that it is going to work out. Your love for him can NOT
undo his marriage .... ONLY HE CAN DO THAT!
If you want to risk additonal pain and disappointment ... then
just continue to hang in there! Or face the pain NOW endure the heartache of letting go now; and then move on!
By the way .... I you really going to listen to the advice that you get here?
2007-11-26 12:37:17
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answered by kjh 3
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well it sound to me for you to go for he's using you. If he was a good man he would have not dated you and tried to fix his marriage or at least get a divorce first. He wants his wife but she is not fulfilling his needs so your the pie for now while the cake is at home. You know if he cheats on his wife,and lets say you married him. Hmmmm.what makes you think he will be faithful to you when it seems he gives up on an responsibility he promised long ago. You want to be with someone who is a quitter just because things get rough? Don't you think your better than that? You know the right answer to this question. If he is not going to be an adult then you be one.
2007-11-26 12:29:35
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answered by shadow of life. 2
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Sweetheart, 9 out of 10 times the married guy is not going to leave for someone else. Even when he finally gets caught. Don't set yourself up for disappointment. Drop him, get on with a healthy relationship! Good luck!
2007-11-26 12:19:06
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answer #5
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answered by michael w 3
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I don't even have to finish reading your post. If he is married and staying that way, just go. If he meant what he says he would do something about it. Just think about it, he is finding it easy to cheat. If you were to become his wife, he would just cheat on you.
Change your number or just don't pick up his calls, and make an effort to find someone new. A man who is honest and can give you the life and attention you need.
2007-11-26 12:23:42
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answered by ScSpec 7
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Ok the fact that his married should put up a big red flag to you
he will not be faithful girl look at the way he is doing his own wife!
You should be looking at the single guys I sure hope this guy dont have children Be smart do the other way
it will not work out for you and him
2007-11-26 12:44:48
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answered by Anonymous
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Get out...there is no good way for this to end for you. If and when he leaves his wife, then you can be together...but in the meantime you are headed for disaster and heartbreak if you stay....not to mention the real possibility of the wife finding out. You never know who or what might set someone off and cause them to be dangerous to others or themselves.....something to think about.
2007-11-26 12:24:45
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answer #8
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answered by EA A 2
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Hon,
I know it hurts, but listen.
You love a guy who doesn't even give YOU, the same love and respect enough to be single!
After when he's done being with you, he goes home to cuddle up with his wife.
You do have a choice, walk away, or ask him to move in with him and his wife, and be content to share.
Good luck, and take care of that beautiful heart. Tom
2007-11-26 12:22:32
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answer #9
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answered by Tomb391 2
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be careful dating him......people will call u a homewrecker....i had a the same situation and the guy did'nt tell me he was married for 8 months and people kept harrassing me and calling me a homewrecker i felt sooo bad because i didn't know....he told me that he was not with her anymore and she told me that they were not together so i stayed with him and now it's been a year in a half and he still tells me that we can't be together because he's a busy marine...after a while I moved on and found someone else because i felt there was no progress....he's still in that marriage or whatever they are in....some married men say that they are leaving their wives knowing that they never will.......make sure that he's really going to leave his marriage for you if he loves you he will do it......
2007-11-26 12:28:02
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answered by mrs. MJ 3
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um I think in the beggining he just told you anything so that you would contiune to sleep with him.... but over time, he actually fooled himself into thinking it may actually work with you... so he sincerley wants you back, but I also know he will never leave his wife for you...
It happend to me just the way I described.. she left me and crushed my heart to this day, almost a year later, yet i will never, ever leave my wife even though I told my ex-GF, that I was planning to leave my wife for her... but that was a lie... I just wanted the sex with her... but at the same time, I to this day can't stop thinking about her... so the best day's in my life is when I was with my wife and had my girlfriend on the side... can't beat that.
2007-11-26 12:24:40
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answer #11
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answered by Latin G 5
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