It seems like everyone's happier about it than me, I keep getting these "congratulations" but all I can do is worry!
2007-11-26 12:09:45 · 18 answers · asked by justpeachee22 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My fiance (we're getting married in 2.5 weeks, which WAS planned) is ecstatic! Like I told the doctor, it wasn't unwanted, it wasn't really "unplanned" just unexpected ;)
2007-11-26 12:20:32 · update #1
i cried so bad, the doc sent in a counsoler. then i was tripping out for the 1st 2 weeks, crying, and i kept thinking, what should i do. my boyfriend wanted to keep it, but i wassnt ready. i had a job, he didnt, i only worked at retail store. sure i had my own apartment, and bills, i just thought i cant afford this baby, and i also worried i would be a bad mama cuz my mom was a bad mama and i got anger issues and i had depression. I figured if I keep it, i am screwed, but then I thought, If i abort it, i will never ever forgive myself, and I will always wonder, WHAT IF.. always think about the child i could have.. I was going nuts.. but my co-worker said somthing that I took into consideration and thought about.. she said "no matter who you are and how old , you will never be ready, i am 30 with 5 kids and every time, i am not ready.." so I kept it, had a very happy pregnancy and i look at this baby girl and thank GOD for blessing me with such happiness...dont worry, those feelings will pass, just talk to someone :) Oh my boyfriend is now working FT makin lots of loot and is a WONDERFUL father ;D
2007-11-26 12:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I found last week I have a doctors appointment this week to confirm but when I first found out I was shocked i still don't believe the people that knows about it are excited but i don't even want to get to happy until the doctor confirms it and until I pass the 3 first month since the most critical moment when you are pregnant the risk of a miscarriage decrease after the 3 month. But you are basically in the same situation as me im just worried but I wish you a healthy pregnancy and healthy baby.
2007-11-26 12:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by Deana 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was worried too. I got excited for a brief second and then spent much of my first trimester freaking out about things I was eating and doing. It's my first pregnancy so naturally I wanted to make sure I was doing things right. But now I'm 20 weeks along and everything has gone great. Just relax and try to enjoy this time. You and your baby do not need the stress! Try finding a couple of books on pregnancy. Belly Laughs is hysterical and What to Expect When You're Expecting is very informative. Also visit babycenter.com, it's a great website with good tools. And of course, people on here are good listeners and offer great advice. Congratulations and enjoy.
2007-11-26 12:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by N and A's Momma 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My hubby is usually the worry-wort & Im the optimist but it was totally different when we found out we were pregnant.He was so excited & has been the entire time.I totally freaked out.I was scared,nervous,kinda excited,etc.I just didnt know what to think..People kept telling me "congratulations" but I was just like ok,thanks.I guess it just took me a couple months before I got happy about it.I didn't really get super excited about it until I started getting a pudge & feeling the baby move..Now I am 23 weeks & couldn't be happier about this.I love being pregnant.Some people hate it though.Maybe it will just take you a while to get used to it.Maybe it will get better for you.I really hope so..Congratulations & Good luck!!
2007-11-26 12:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by ~*~ Ali ~*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shocked and SO excited! We'd been trying, and this was the first month that I wasn't convinced I was pregnant. I just took a test for the heck of it, because I was going to be drinking the next day (and wanted to make sure it would be ok to), and I saw the second line. I thought, "wow, I haven't seen anything like that yet." It was really light so I thought it wasn't positive. Then I read the directions again and realized it was positive! I was shaking, and ran downstairs to show my husband.
2007-11-26 12:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by That's not my name 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i remember when i got told the first time, i had been trying for 6 months and when the doctor said i was finally pregnant, i nearly threw up on the spot. then i didnt speak for about 3 hours, then i started to get excited. if this pregnancy is a suprise, no wonder you feel worried and anxious. even if it was planned, its a very daunting experience. everything will be fine, and you'll fall in love with your baby when you start to feel it move and see your belly grow, its hard to get excited when it doesnt really seem real yet.
2007-11-26 12:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't that happy at first. Everybody told me congratulations and I just kinda felt like "yeah, okay". But, i quickly warmed up to the idea. I started to get excited to think I was now in the 'mom' category. It's still really scary and I am so nervous but it gets better.
Give yourself a little time. It's okay not to be over the moon about it. When you hold your little baby you won't ever remember not feeling excited to meet him.
2007-11-26 12:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by Spanks 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was really worried. Although I had been with my then boyfriend for 5 1/2 years, we werent really planning on having kids. When I told him he was over the moon, he was so happy that he made it seem ok for me as well. I had alot of anciousness in my early pregnancy and although, its better now, I still do worry. My boyfriend has since proposed and we are now enjoying the pregnancy. You cannot help but feel anxiety when you find out, but as time goes on and you connect with your baby it makes it more real and somehow OK for you to pregnant.
18w5d with baby #1
2007-11-26 21:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by lala01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When i found out i was pregnant, i was very shocked. *vizualize my jaw dropping and me falling to the floor*
And i only told a very few people, b/c i was pregnant with my best friends child, and we wernt "officially" anything. I hated hearing "congratulations!!" because i felt like they didnt know anything about the situation and had no idea how worried i was.
Try not to worry, i know thats stupid to say b/c its your child and you're the one taking care of it, but really try not to. The more you worry the worse it is on the child (im not trying to scare you). Let things play out. And think about happier things....like how adorable the boy/girl will be and how much it will be loved.
2007-11-26 12:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It might take a while to be happy. If you're a worrier you'll be a worrier. Mine never stopped. My baby is 5 months old and I still worry. Just do the best you can (dont drink, smoke, or do anything else weird) and that's all you can. If your pregnancy wasn't planned you may be mourning your previous life.
2007-11-26 12:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋