What are some ways to know if someone is having an outside affair?

Answer 1

cell phone is first place to look then place of work is 2ND and Then computer is 3rd and 4th will be they change how they are around the spouse.....and they don't look you in the eyes no more.....the list goes on and on....just check the first 2 first....i am sure you will find out from them....good luck...hope you don't find out they are cheating......

Answer 2

Approach it logically, not emotionally.

To have sex takes time and a location and a person. Make a simple list of the other persons activities and times and people they know and figure out what parts aren't accounted for. Then, do a little intelligence gathering to fill in the blanks.

All this stuff people are writing about changes in behavior may raise flags, but can be caused by any of of a million things and will only add to suspicions and make you more emotional and upset. It's as simple as a game of clue. Just eliminate times, places and suspects until there's nothing left or you have the goods.

Answer 3

It seems to me that an affair would take up a fair amount of the person's time. Does the person have long periods of unexplained absence. One time a woman tried to harm my wife and I by telling her that she and I were having an affair (long story). I pointed that out to my wife when she asked about it. Her reply was, "I thought the same thing. Your never gone long enough to have an affair!"

Answer 4

If you are asking this question then odds are he is cheating.
Coming home late from work or going in early and on weekends. Loosing weight,dressing better caring more about his appearance. Picking fights with you over little things that didn't matter before. Picking you apart,telling you or just showing you that things you do now are getting on his nerves.
Going out with the guys from work to have a couple of drinks.
Phone rings and you pick it up and no one is there.There are more but if he is doing half of these things then he is cheating on you.

He could be doing everyone of these things and you still won't believe he is cheating on you only because you don't want it to be true.If you confront him with your suspicions he will tell you your crazy and he isn't doing anything,you will believe him until something else comes up that gets you thinking.This pattern could go on for a year or so until you have had enough.

Answer 5

outside affair as opposed to inside affair?

Answer 6

With all of the technology around today, it shouldn't be hard to find out. Don't get upset, just take the time and find out whats going on. And pleeeeeese, don't ask if they are having an affair! The minute you ask they start to really hide whats going on.

Answer 7

it may begin with him buying u presents, because he feels guilt at first, but as time goes on he may act irritated at u, maybe u and him don't talk as much, he may find reasons to work extra, is he gone on weekends alot, saying he is working, has he bought some new clothing lately, is he more selfish now, does he pick fights for no good reason, find fault with u, insult u or name call, or just generally disrespect u, does he go into a different room to talk on his cell. does things he says not make any sense. is he distant from u more than before, not interested in u or the home anymore. has he lost his focus as far as your concerned.does it seem as if everyone is more important than u are to him. there may be a drastic change in behavior and morals. has he lost his belief in god and right and wrong. does he hang out with people he use to avoid, does he seem to be totally different than the man u married and fell in love with, is it as if your in the house with some stranger.

Answer 8

The biggest tip off for me was a change in behavior. that and the famous Working late.

Answer 9

If they act like they are in love or on the prowl and the object of their attention/affection doesn't seem to be you, then I would suspect it highly. But it's like a court case, the only way you can know for sure is physical evidence/witnesses/a confession.

Answer 10

Their behavior and routines change..... If they are staying out late all the time, are being secretive on the phone. Have changed their appearance and are not being as intimate with you as they used to be..