how can i tell her?

Question

my friend has been singing for 4 years in chorus. not to be mean, but she's not good. though now since we are picking highschools she is trying to get into an arts school and became SO cocky she believes she'll get in. Every one we know believe she isn't because her voice isn't that good. should I tell her? because it is getting on my nerves...

Answer 1

let her have hope into getting into whatever she wants. if she is your friend you wont straight up tell her YOU SUCK or anything like that...she obviously really wants it.. but you should be telling her to not get cocky about it...

Answer 2

Honesty is the best policy! But if you don't want to say anything mean, just tell her next time she gets cocky not to count her chickens before they're hatched.

There are a lot of people who have 'made it' singing, and I personally don't think their voice is that great. Record sales say otherwise. So you never do know, the school just might like how she sounds.

Answer 3

I wouldn't tell her you'll lose her if your the one to crush her dreams. She will be crushed enough when she is not accepted, so her ********* will be short lived, besides when someone is being cocky is usually to cover up their own lack of belief or fear or not actually being good enough, so they act as though they think they are hoping that it will make them feel they are. Every time she opens her mouth and annoys you just think about how much she must be bricking it on the inside an you wont be so annoyed :)

Answer 4

If someone in their early teens has an interest, they should pursue it. DON'T INTERFERE OR DISPARAGE. She could get much better as her voice develops through her mid-teens.

If your friend was a terrible singer as a graduating high school senior and wished to major in voice, that's an entirely different scenario. Then you could tell her that anyone wishing to go to college and major in voice should take at least a couple of voice lessons to improve their chances of being accepted at their first choice. The voice teacher would then advise her if she should pursue her dreams.

Answer 5

you should say " hey have you ever heard yourself sing?" in a nice voice and if she says no then record her with your cell phone or tape recorder or what ever and when she hears it and she doesn't think she sounds bad then let her go to that school but if she sees how bad she is she won't be so cocky any more. I was faced with the same situation trust me it works if she hears herself she'll know

Answer 6

Well, the best way wouldn't be to tell her that she is bad it at. Instead of just telling her that she doesn't sing well, kind of mold it into her. Try telling her in a soft way and then suggest a way for her to improve it.

Every single person in the world has a voice good enough for singing ... they just have to find it.

Answer 7

very good friends are those who can tell each other anything about anything. you may need to tell your friend that maybe her talent is not on the same level as that needed to get into arts school. she may be a little hurt but she will be in a major funk if she gets rejected form her art school goal.

Answer 8

you know, her voice might be really good, you aren't a voice critic or anything and maybe that's her dream to sing, if she's good she'll get in and if she's not, she won't. who are you to tell her what she should and shouldn't do. what if she really upset you about your dreams? you would be crushed and who knows this might ruin a great friendship!!! just be there for her and encourage her to reach her goals, don't put her down like you want to!!!

Answer 9

Maybe you should have her listen to herself on a tape. I am a singer, also have been in choir since i was 12, but we have auditions and such. My biggest critic is myself, and hearing myself makes me focus that much harder on tweaking my vocals. Instead of telling her she's horrible, maybe she'll start to realize it on her own or possibly, through some serious practice, get better.

Answer 10

no. since she's being so cocky, just let things take their course and wait. when she doesn't get in, she'll fall hard, and realize what a jerk she was. plus, you'll have a nice laugh about it (just not to her face!). but definately don't say anything now, because it will just mess up your friendship and it won't be as satisfying as waiting! :)

Answer 11

she'll find out soon enough, i'm sure. Just don't bring it up too often, or she'll talk about it more. when she does bring it up, be polite and nice, but don't ask any questions, because if you do, she'll think you're interested. But you don't have to be the one to tell her, so don't make yourself that person on purpose, it'll be tougher on you. Just be glad you don't have to listen to her sing, too!