hey how can u stop ur teen from being sexually active?

Question

i need more than 1 way. make sure they're reasonable answers

Answer 1

If you're aware that they are engaging in inappropriate behavior and the kid is not mature enough to properly handle those situations, keep them under "surveillance" 24-7. Always put them in a situation where you, a teacher, or another adult is present until they prove themselves mature enough to be without adult supervision. They have to earn your trust.

Answer 2

I'm sure this is not what you want to hear, but you cannot stop them from having sex if this is what they really want to do.

You simply cannot watch them 24/7. You can set extreme limitations but this will only alienate them and make them more desperate to get away from you and so much more likely to get into trouble. You have to sleep and kids can and will sneak out of the house! I had a friend in school that really rebelled against her overbearing parents and had lots of sex IN SCHOOL in the restrooms and lockerooms and even in the basement broiler room janitor's closet. I am not joking.

This was a mennonite girl. Her parents were VERY strict. She kept the good girl face and dress on at home and when she got to school she changed clothes, put on make up and made out with boys. She was very lucky that she did not wind up pregnant--she was wise enough to go to the library and make good use of the books there to educate herself.

Where there is is will there is a way and keeping too tight a leash will make them more likely to find a way to rebel.

Therefore, you MUST educate you kids. I know that many parents think that education only give the kids the tools they need to got out and have all the sex they want---we as a society have got to stop that way of thinking!

I know it is hard and embarrassing to talk about sex with our children. AND in most cases parents don't honestly have all the right answers themselves...so many adults out there have tons of sex but really know very little about their own bodies.

If you feel uncomfortable about this topic you should start by educating yourself first so when you approach your child you are less uncomfortable and not as nervous.

Below are some very good site that are aimed at teens but they are still EXCELLENT sources of information for people of all ages.

http://kidshealth.org/

http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/

http://www.iwannaknow.org/

Good luck to you.

Answer 3

First off aint nobody going to stop someone from having sex. These people saying do this and do that it wont work. There is no way to stop them just make sure they're protected. Like using condoms, spermicide, birth control and know about STDs. All these parents who say I'ld kill my kid well honey I guarntee you your's will be the first one pregnant and not telling you because of how you are. Be open, talk to them, tell them you'd rather they wait but you know they'll do what they want and let them know they can talk to you about it.

Answer 4

I am a teen peer educator. I am a teen that teaches teens comprehensive sex education. It's proven that the more accurate information about sex is given to teens the longer they wait. Give your child accurate information, be open, and if they do have sex let them be able to come to you for help. Help them stay safe that's the best a parent can do. You can't stop it but you can prevent a pregnancy or STD's.

Answer 5

You can't. The minute they are out of your sight, you have to go on faith that you raised them right. Make sure that they know the consequences - I talked really plainly to my son about the consequences of sex and not just the pg part.

The only other thing you can do is keep them so involved in activities that they have no time or energy for anything else.

Answer 6

There isnt really anyway to stop your teen from being sexually active. Besides following them around, being with them every second of the day. I don't think that is going to happen.
Just tell them all about sex and hope they know not to do it. (just don't tell them it feels good)

Answer 7

there isn't really any way that you can stop them. Jjust make sure that you warn them of all the consequences. If you don't trust them and they know that you don't trust them then they will end up going out and doing it to rebel against you. If you trust them then you will probably be okay. Just keep an eye on them and make sure that they're staying safe!

Answer 8

You really cannot stop them. You cannot stay with them 24/7. Tell him how you feel and make sure they are educated on pregnancy and Std. That is about all you can do.

Answer 9

Establish a really good relationship with your teen, the goal is to make it so that your teen will talk to you FIRST before having sex. All you can really do is teach them that sex is pleasure for 5 min and can be hurt for the rest of your life. Instill your values and morals and they will follow

Answer 10

Well I don't see a way unless you kept them locked up in a cage and never let them see the light of day...LOL.

It's just a part of growing up where everything that you've taught your kids will either steer them in the right or wrong direction. Make sure to talk to your teen about sex, STD's, unplanned pregnancies, birth control, and all that good stuff.

Good luck! :)

Answer 11

Well, I could only think of one right off the bat...Scare the crap out of them with facts about STDs. We had an abstinence program at my high school and we taught everyone about sexually transmitted diseases. We had pictures and everything. I helped in the demonstration and I could see the scared looks on the faces of guys that were sexually active already.