In the past we have both cheated but we split up and then got back together 5 months later.When we got back together we had 3 kids and I caught him cheating when I was caring our third child.I do think I should be the one who has trust issues
2007-11-26 11:41:11 · 23 answers · asked by antoqonette 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i hate to say this...but whenever a significant other of mine has accused me of cheating and acting really jealous it always turned out that they were the one cheating...sadly, i hate to say it but he may be cheating on you again :(
2007-11-26 11:45:05 · answer #1 · answered by lexa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's the one with the issues and u havent given him a reason not to trust u then he's the one out doing some dirt. X's are X's for a reason so getting back together after that first seperation was not the best idea. The two of you probably need to just go your seperate ways.
2007-11-26 11:45:06 · answer #2 · answered by Candle Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its always the one cheating who does the accusing, so he can justify his own actions through projection. life is hard enough without all that drama in ones life. couldn't make for a Happy marriage getting accused of things your not really doing. if u caught him cheating again after u both agreed to go back together he sounds as if he wasn't too sincere. only u can decide what u want to do. but usually when one gets betrayed the marriage will suffer and never be the same.
2007-11-26 13:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both should never have gotten back together after the first time and definitely you should not have brought children into it.IF there is no trust you will never have a happy marriage. I am also sure that you have problems with communicating as well cause most times it is not just a one issue problem.I am just sad to hear that kids are suffering once again.
2007-11-26 11:45:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk approximately unfair! You suggested that he has no longer cheated and he's not given you a reason to no longer believe him.... so his reward for being somebody you are able to believe is you handle him like a infant!! No ask your self he needs time aside. seems such as you have had believe subjects interior the previous with different adult males and now your husband is suffering for that. you need to furnish him his area, he needs that. He does no longer want you up his butt 24/7 desirous to comprehend the place he's, who he's with, and what he's doing. he permit you to comprehend those issues. Your believe subjects have no longer something to do with your husband assisting different females at artwork, or with your husband era. they're subjects you're feeding your self and that are destroying your marriage! in case you incredibly hated those emotions then you incredibly might get some counseling, some help in coping with them. this is not your husband's fault, it is your FAULT! So very own it and circulate talk with somebody who can help you stumble on out why you're ruining your marriage with a guy who has of course given you no reason to no longer believe him. you like help now... you think of believe is the priority now, think of if he finally gets so bored with it he asks for a divorce? Then what's going to you do?
2016-11-12 21:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by monsalvatge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both need counseling for you both don't see each others needs and think sex and kids will solve it when the issues that caused you both to cheat in the first place were never resolved. good luck on the answer you seek.
2007-11-26 11:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by shadow of life. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my grandma was a very smart lady she passed in 2001 and she always told me if a man gets mad at you and says your cheating then that means he is the one cheating on you.....and I hate to say this not trying to hurt your feelings but, he cheated and so did you why on earth would you get back together in the first place...think for a second on it you should have never gotten back together in the first place....but, there is always divorce and that may be the option...good luck...and think long on this one.....
2007-11-26 11:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to try to salvage this train wreck of a marriage go to marriage counseling. If not, take the kids and leave. Since you have both cheated neither one of you is innocent.
2007-11-26 11:47:40 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two are made for each other. If he is not trusting you, then I have the feeling he is cheating again. The guilty one always brings the subject up.
2007-11-26 11:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, ok my philosophy is you can only trust others as much as you yourself can be trusted, to be very cautious. My boyfriend was going crazy because I was talking to my ex, and even though it was completely platonic between us, and I had given him no reason to not trust me he would still throw fits about it. Well come to find out he had been talking to this girl and had planned on meeting her, and was talking to some of his ex's too. lol
the irony, of men. They make themselves so obvious.
So if you have given him no reason not to trust you, then corner him and ask him.
2007-11-26 11:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by KRDB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should both have trust issues. Why would you be surprised. And if you both cheated in the past.....well.....
2007-11-26 11:46:16 · answer #11 · answered by William B music lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋