how do i know if my husband is lying to me?

Question

i spoke to my husband's ex gf on the internet, she thought it was him. she reminded that they had seen each other before his move to vegas, she also reminded him that once he told her that he didn't like me...i'm worried he says it's not true and i've told him that in order for me to believe him he has to call her and i want to listen to her say it's not true. now why would she be lying? specially to him she didn't know it was me. another thing is that he keeps on going in turns and telling me that he's going to get her number but hasn't done it, it's been now about 2 wks. or so...how do i know if he's lying and she is telling the truth or if it's the other way around....please help me??? :(

Answer 1

Hard to tell.

Maybe she suspected it was you and by the way you responded to her. So, it was her opportunity to say horrible things.

Maybe she and your husband have chatted. However, I can't imagine him saying that "he didn't like you." What kind of man is that even if it is a cheating man?

Two weeks is way too long for your husband not to call her in front of you. However, maybe he truly doesnt have her phone number.

I guess I would go by his actions. Does he get easily defensive when you confront him and start yelling at you? If so, I was say it's a red flag for a liar. If he just keeps on convincing you that nothing is going on and she's a liar, blah blah blah, then I was probably think that maybe he is innocent and the "ex" is a wh0re who isnt woman enough to find a real man and keep one.

Answer 2

Come on now, you know your husband is lying to you. I'm still waiting for my husband to call his whore and say he never loved her,i just needed to hear him say the words to her(I don't love you and never did) seems easy enough to say wouldn't you agree. That was 10 years ago and he never made that call just like your husband will never call her. That's your answer right there,he will come up with all kinds of excuses to why he can't call.
You don't want it to be true so you are hanging onto anything he says that might give you a reason to believe in him. Like i said you know what he has done your just not ready to hear it or believe it. That's how so many husbands get away with cheating on their wives. The wives don't want to know but they need to know,but when it's right in their faces they back down and get scared because it might be true and they don't want to know because it will disrupted their happy little homes.
I don't think it will do any good calling her now because i think they have talked things over and have it all worked out if he does call her or even if you get on line with her again,in other words she has been warned about you.

Answer 3

My now EX husband tried this same similar thing with me 4 years ago. I busted him when I found out he'd been talking to his ex girlfriend. He kept saying..."we can call her and she can tell you we're just friends!" and blah blah blah. I said no thank you b/c they had had too much time to conspire and get their stories straight with each other. I eventually let it go and got over it trusting that it would never happen again when he said he would stop speaking to her. This was 4 years ago....we stayed together and eventually he ended up lying and cheating again..w/other women..and I left him and we just finalized our divorce last month. Be VERY cautious is all I can say. He has been beating around the bush for two long if this was 2 weeks ago. I think he's hoping you will forget about it and stop bugging him about it. Don't forget it!

Answer 4

Im so sorry sweetie but it sounds like he is lying!
His ex wouldnt have known it was u on the internet and wouldnt just bring up the past if she knew it was u! I dont think she would make up a lie about her contact with ur hubby if she thought it was u on the internet!
Ur hubby needs to front up and stop lying because the truth will come out in the end ....

Answer 5

I believe that if your gut is making you wonder if he's lying, he probably is. To me, the "gut" is one of God's Ways of letting us know what's going on in "The Unseen". At times when I've followed my gut, I've been very glad I did, even though it hurt. The times when I didn't, it not only hurt, but I added feelings of regret because I hadn't follow my gut. The fact that you were online with her, knowing that she thought it was him based on her responses, makes me know that you know he's wronging you. The real problem is you have to accept that truth and decide how you should deal with it. Also, is this the first time you've gone through this? I'd guess that, based on the comment you said he made to you, his wife, about "getting her number", it probably isn't. Heed the signs, O.K.?

Answer 6

honey I hate to be the one to say this but, he is cheating I will bet you on this one. cause i have men all the time on line trying to cheat on there wife's...i won't be with a married man for real. but, if she thought you was him then why would she be saying things like that? now if I was you I would start fallowing him and check his cell phone that is always the first place to go...cell phones tell a lot. Get out the cell phone bill and look up the girls phone number....then get a friend that he may not know there car and go set in the parking lot of his work that is were my best friend cached her hubby cheating....then get back on line and talk to the girl ask her and she may be upfront for you to know the truth but,
I personally feel in my heart the man is a dog and is cheating......good luck and for God sakes find out the truth then divorce that cheating dog..................

Answer 7

I think you already know he is lying. Woman's intuition is usually on target. If your still with him after cheating you are probably not planning on leaving him. You need to decide for yourself what you want to do, stay there because it's easier or leave him and keep your dignity. Cancel the internet and if it angers him or he says no, then there is probably a reason for it.

Answer 8

Always listen to your first mind.If you think that something is wrong it maybe.Don't over react let your husband think that everything is said and done and he will mess up again and then you can catch him in a lie.A man will never want to admit he is wrong but if you wait the truth always comes out

Answer 9

You know the answer to this one. He is definately talking to that woman. She didnt know it was you and said those things? Right and he threatens to get her number? Please all that means is he already has it and if you find it before he tells you or you guys break up all he is gonna do is try and blame it on you saying "I told ya so you shouldnt have done ___!"

Answer 10

there is a book: "the definitive book of body language" by a psychologist couple. the cover is purple. after reading that book, everyone I came in contact with could not hide their inner thoughts and feelings from me. there was always something in their body language that helped me see what they were thinking or feeling. I would start there. if anything, when you question him he will not be able to hide his body language. unless he's read the book also.