Why do people choose to have children in bad neighborhoods?

Question

I mean neighborhoods where gunfires are common and burglaries galore. I'm not making fun of poor people, but If someone wants to have a kid, shouldn't they focus on moving to a safe neighborhood and then having a kid? I just don't get why someone would choose to raise their child in such an environment.

Answer 1

I am sure every one has different reasons or so for doing what they do. I live in the hood, and I am very well off. That is the reason I am well off. I never had a problem with my kids and as a matter of fact they have turned out better than great. Home training is the problem with some of these parents. They are not raising their kids properly. Television, and video games are raising our kids. that is worse than living in a bad neighborhood any day of the week.

Answer 2

So-called "BAD" neighborhoods are, basically, where educational and financial levels are significantly low compared to the rest of the population.

Therefore, contraception methods (The Pill, condom use, abstinence) are seldom acknowledged, used, or practiced.

I assume that you find the need to move to a "GOOD" neighborhood crucial to the proper development of a child. And you're right.

But the truth of that matter is that in "BAD" neighborhoods, these standards are not as common as you would imagine.

So you are blessed to have the mentality you have. Not everyone has it.

The best thing you can do is educate people. Because knowledge is the only thing that can help them.

Take a look at a great, recent movie, "Gone, Baby, Gone," where this issue is discussed in a very painful way.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Allow me to answer your question with this one..."Why do people have children when they "can't afford children?" They have these kids when they are poor, or starting out in life simply because they are starting out. For the most part, we as adults don't wait until we can "afford kids" or "afford to move to a better neighborhood, a better city, or a better job" some have kids because they love kids and some have babies because the Government "provides" what is essential for them to exist. I have found that the more kids one has (up to five I understand) that's a fairly good life style. Be it a bad neighborhood or not, behind your secured door is your safety. One believes that those kids are their jobs, be it bad parenting or just existing, the schools feed them, the Churches clothe them, Sunday School provides a hug. The parents fail to see the importance of being a positive influence for the kids, I believe this is why we may have "career welfare". Mother, Daughter, Grandkids. and I might add, where are the father's? Why don't they step up to the plate??? Why do we allow them to escape? In some cases it's because the "Government will provide better then the fathers do"

Answer 4

Because they have no other choice. Just the same as you. Can you really go from one house to another just because someone has teased your kids, or because you just have decided that you dont like your home anymore. Dont blame poor people. Blame the system because the houses that they provide are the only ones that they can afford. Most of them only have minimum wage jobs, and can barely make ends meet then. The ones who arent on crack, and drinking, and doing drugs are the ones that I support. Instead of wondering why people choose to have children in bad neighborhoods, maybe you can start doing something to improve that. Try voluteering in neighborhoods that have high crime, or giving to the poor instead of judging them. I commend the mothers who are single, and are making it on their own without the help and support of the system. More needs to be done in order for the poverty rate in America to decrease. Maybe you should start doing your part to help others. That is why I dont answer questions in categories like this because I fly off the handle when someone asks something as crazy as this question is. You think people actually LIKE living where they live where they have to fear for their lives everyday of their life? Dont you think they want somewhere to live where there stuff in their houses wont be broken into and stolen. Dont you think that everyday they come home from work that they are praying that they HAVE a home to go to? You shouldnt judge someone just because of their living station in life. And while you may not think that you are doing that, you are in fact, creating more of a problem than you think you are. Maybe they want to procreate because that child gives them the only reason for living, and is the only joy in their life. You seem like you make assumptions on things you know nothing about. Start helping in those communities that you find so bad. Maybe then this world will be in for a better change!!

Answer 5

God needs to get children to earth. This is part of His plan. I have often said "why does God allow that person to have kids? They're on drugs or they're poor or they have abused the other kids in the home. why would God let such a thing happen.
Believe it or not, we discussed these things before we came to Earth. we sat in council with God and agreed to be born into the circumstances that we have. We are given agency to choose the right path back to God and people are free to choose the incorrect path if they wish. Sin, Poverty, Etc are part of the consequences to choices we've made in life. If we live in a bad neighborhood, does that make us a bad person? No, it just means we fell on hard times and couldn't afford a better place to be. Should I deny my children from having a brother or sister just because I'm poor? No, if I can afford to provide for my child then I should never deny them from a chance to live. Should I tell God that I'm not willing to help with His Plan Of Salvation just because I'm selfish and not willing to work a little bit harder to keep my kids off drugs and away from the gangs that infest even the richest of neighborhoods. My nephew lives in one of the richest towns in this nation and he is a meth addict because his family gave him a credit card with unlimited use.
Being poor and living in a bad place doesn't make you bad, your choices and actions make you bad.

Answer 6

Making a baby is fun and easy. Planning your future and doing things in the right order is more difficult.

More kids = more poverty.

There is a negative correlation between the number of kids you have and your ability financially to get a nice place in a nice neighborhood.

Also if people only had kids when it makes sense, there wouldn't be any people at all.

Answer 7

They don't choose to have kids in a bad neighbourhood. They are unfortunate enough to live in a bad neighbourhood and then they have kids. They may well wish to move to a better neighbourhood but that's not easy - it takes more money than most people in the neighbourhood have. Get a better job - not easy if you have an address in a bad neighbourhood. I realise you are not making fun of poor people but I wonder if you realise how hard life is for some people???? How hard is your life???

Answer 8

Many times, they may not be in a position to move into a better environment. I dont think that makes them bad parents, just poor circumstances. And look at it from this point of view, alot of abortions are justified by "not being able to afford" the baby.

Answer 9

Many people in these neighborhoods cannot afford to relocate simply to provide their children with a better environment. However, they are still loving people and wish to have children. It would be ideal if everyone were in a position to provide the life they wish for their children.

Answer 10

People donot CHOOSE this, Society and high costs of living choose this for you. IF you are fortunate enough to live in the better neighborhoods, they arn't guaranteed to be as good as the others you call "bad." Bad neighborhoods are all over the place in every state and country, and town. BAD has NO boundaries. If not for Society we wouldn't have these problems.